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The Comfort Zone - Setting Up A Space For Tarot Reading

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 21:02:00 GMT

Whether you read tarot for yourself or others, the environment can make all the difference in the quality of the reading. A calm, soothing atmosphere allows for an open, receptive mind, which is favorable for a good tarot reading. It doesn't matter if you actually see clients in person or only do phone readings - the same principle applies.

The Office

I'm fortunate that I am able to have an office where my clients can visit me directly. I put my personal stamp on my place and it is comfortable for me. There is almost no place I'd rather be than my office (well, except maybe the kitchen!). If you decide to set up a space in your home or rent a space, here are a few tips to keep in mind:

1. Make it relaxed and welcoming. Beautiful pictures, a homey decor and plenty of light lend a cozy vibe. Have your table at a decent ergonomic height so no one has to hunch over it. Get chairs that are comfortable enough but STURDY (I have had more than one chair destroyed by a bigger client). A soft couch is a nice touch, especially in a waiting area. Candles can soften the atmosphere but are not necessary. Keep your office neat and clean. Clutter can be distracting - try to keep it to a minimum especially on the surface you intend to read on. (I'll admit to being rather cluttery myself but it's mostly books and I keep it contained well enough.)

2. Keep the temperature comfortable. If your office is too hot or too cold your client will not be able to relax. You may end up having to pay extra in energy costs but this is worth it in my opinion. I'd rather pay a few dollars to the energy man to insure my clients are happy.

3. Some tarot readers frown on "tinkly music" but I heartily disagree. I like to have relaxing new age or classical music playing in the background. Many of my clients come here from work and this immediately soothes their frazzled nerves and helps to set a chilled out tone.

4. Incense is optional. I keep this to a minimum as many people are allergic or just don't like the smell. If you really must burn it, consider doing it an hour before work - and keep the window slightly open to get rid of the smoke. Because people can be sensitive to scents, you may want to consider NOT wearing perfume.

5. Pets can be adorable but also unpredictable. You may want to keep Rover out of your office to avoid potential issues. I have two cats and one happens to be extremely obnoxious. I'll allow them down at times but usually, they get the boot if they become unruly - or if a client is allergic or fearful. Believe it or not, some of my clients actually REQUEST the cats sit in on the reading!

6. Avoid the oogie boogie thing as much as possible. In other words, you may want to keep your images and person rather neutral. Some people are fearful enough walking into a tarot reading and anything too "spooky" could be a turn off. In my own office, I have many religious pictures from the 1920's (a nod to my Catholic roots and my favorite era). I always get a lot of compliments on them. But I also have a framed antique bisque baby doll that sometimes freaks out sensitive types until I explain to them that I bought it that way! And then there are some who actually prefer the gypsy witch experience and may be disappointed if you appear too "normal". I've had a few that thought they'd walk in and I'd be wearing a turban....they were quite bummed out that wasn't the case.

Phone Readings

1. Make sure you are in a relaxed place so you can concentrate. This means the baby is asleep, the dog is out of your hair, hubby isn't walking in and out and the television is off. I find I need my environment super quiet if I am doing a reading over the phone. I want to give all of my attention to the client - distractions destroy my ability to focus.

2. Be sure the client is in an equally relaxed place. I learned this the hard way. I had a few clients who would call me and then spend half the reading yelling at their children or spouse. I now insist they schedule their appointment when they know they will not be disturbed. I need the client to concentrate as much as I am because they are not here to shuffle the cards!

Parties and Public Places

You will have little to no control in this arena. When you do anything at other people's homes, you are at their mercy. I've done readings in freezing cold basements, sweltering bedrooms, screaming loud taverns, next to blaring speakers at a convention, and in a cockroach ridden mouse infested hellhole. I've learned to be flexible but now set some boundaries as much as possible.

You can do a little "damage control" by asking your client in advance what the area will be like. If you are doing a major public event, insist on a quiet table away from the action. Ask your hostess to put you in a separate room if possible. Some tarot readers I know even bring their own tablecloths, crystals, candles and music to insure they are able to set a vibe they like! As long as you and the querent can find a way to be relaxed, you may find that you can read your tarot anywhere!

Blessings!
Theresa
http://www.thetarotlady.com

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PS That is NOT my office pictured above! LOL Just a lovely picture.

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Where do you read tarot? What are your tips for creating the right atmosphere? I'd love to hear your suggestions! Leave them in the comments section below!

The Yamas Of Tarot Reading

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 21:06:00 GMT

Most people who know me also know that in addition to reading tarot, I am an avid yogi and have been practicing for well over a decade. About 6 years ago, I started to teach yoga and meditation so that I could share these gifts with others who are seeking a more enlightened life.

Many Westerners think of yoga as an "exercise" program and begin taking classes in hopes of achieving the so-called "yoga butt". I cringe inwardly at this idea because yoga is so much more than that. In fact, the physical aspect of yoga is really only a tiny part. Yoga has a rich history and deep philosophical roots. For example, there are "8 limbs" of yoga - and each one gives us an idea of how to live more consciously. When we bring awareness to our thoughts, words, breath, physicality, and actions, we can begin to reach "samadhi" (liberation), the ultimate goal.

The first limb consists of the "Yamas" (translated as "restraints"). These are the ethical principles that guide us on living in the outside world. When we live a life that respects all and treats others with compassion, we can truly begin to live our dharma and find meaning in our lives.

A majority of my contact with the outside world comes through my work. How can I apply the Yamas to tarot reading?

1. The first Yama - and probably the most important one - is AHIMSA - which means "non-violence" . I'm not talking about using the tarot as a physical weapon (I doubt a deck of 78 cards can do much damage on a human body)! It's about actively practicing kindness and compassion with those who seek to use my services. This can be accomplished by treating clients with respect as well as choosing words that are life affirming and positive. A reader must be as tolerant, sympathetic and considerate as possible. If you have ever gone to a tarot reader that is negative and rude, you know how damaging that kind of vibe can be. I'll never forget years ago a girlfriend and I went to see a very unhappy tarot reader who did nothing but project her bitterness on to us. We walked out of there laughing because nothing she said applied or made sense. It was obvious that she was down on her own life and wanted us to be as miserable as her. For a vulnerable client, a reader like this can be very damaging.

2. The second Yama is SATYA, or "truth". Honesty should guide every word that comes out of your mouth. In other words, a tarot reader must strive to deliver a truthful reading. If you only tell the client what they want to hear, you are doing a disservice. However, that does not mean being harsh with your delivery - once again, Ahimsa must be the cornerstone of every action. You can deliver a candid tarot reading without being "brutal". A heavy hand can be necessary on occasion but a "velvet sledgehammer" is always my preferred tool. I also believe that you can practice Satya by being honest about your abilities. Never pretend to be something that you are not. This could be as simple as knowing when you are not the right reader for a specific client. This is humbling but if you get your ego out of it, you'll see that this is far better than thinking you can read for any and all who come your way. It's not possible. NO reader can do that.

3. The third Yama is ASTEYA, translated as "non-stealing". This can be best practiced with your fellow tarot readers. For example, give credit where credit is due. Don't take the glory for something if you didn't do the work. Always acknowledge your teachers and mentors for their assistance. Avoid actively seeking out a fellow reader's clientele (there is enough work for everyone!). This is a bad business practice born out of scarcity mentality.

4. The fourth Yama is BRAHMACHARYA, or "celibacy". No, I'm not talking about it from a sexual point of view (however, sleeping with your clients is NOT a smart idea. I know of one guy who used to do that and it brought him all kinds of trouble!). I'm talking about it from an "energy" viewpoint. If you are constantly doing tarot readings without conserving some of your energy, you risk burnout - which is no good for you or your clients. Restraining yourself here is wise and prudent. I adhere to a strict policy of only reading 4 days out of the week and limiting the number of clients I serve. Maintaining healthy boundaries makes for a better tarot reader - and a better experience for your clients and a healthier business and life experience in general.

5. The last Yama is "APARIGRAHA" or "non-grasping". You can practice Aparigraha by not "owning" your clients. They are free to come and go as they please - and to seek a different reader if they should choose to do so for any reason. A tarot reader should avoid pushy solicitation. There are some unethical readers that take it to an extreme by telling a client that they have a "curse" on them - and then offering to remove it for thousands of dollars! Some of these con artists will resort to calling the client at home at all hours of the day and night. This is unconscionable and downright criminal! NO ethical reader should EVER engage in such practices.

My other favorite way of exercising Aparigraha is by being objective and "letting go of the readings". I actively work at detaching myself from the outcome - and when my work with a client is done, I also choose to let it go. In other words, I do not obsess over the reading. I close my chakras and move on to the next one without hanging on to what was. I choose to live in the moment. That's how I roll.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

What ethics or philosophies guide you as a tarot reader? Leave your thoughts in the comment section below.

My Review Of "Beyond The Celtic Cross"

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 03:01:00 GMT

Can I make a confession? I've been waiting for this book with bated breath and was mighty envious that Douglas of Tarot Eon had his hands on a copy before I did. I'm usually not the jealous type but I was in full on coveting mode when I read his review. I had to have it! Immediate gratification!!! Oh, the agony of waiting! Finally the day came when the familiar Amazon smiley box arrived at my door and I got my paws around the long awaited book.

I'm an old timer here in regards to tarot reading. I've been playing around with it for almost 30 years. I've dealt with clients from all walks of life and answered every type of question that you can imagine. But I still find myself learning and searching for new techniques (even though I am rather fond of my own methods!). A few months ago, I got turned on to some excellent blogs from the UK that had some curious systems (card counting, Elemental Dignities, etc.) that caught my eye and I've been intrigued ever since. This book, "Beyond The Celtic Cross" by Paul Hughes Barlow and Catherine Chapman (two of the aforementioned bloggers) sheds light on these techniques and helps the reader to apply them in a way that can turn any tarot reading into a richer experience.

Written in a dialogue fashion between the two authors, we get to see these methods in action so to speak. It begins with Catherine writing to Paul about a tarot reading that she was having trouble interpreting. With Paul as her steady guide, they deftly maneuver through the different systems and demonstrate how to interpret with them using Catherine's reading as the example throughout the entire book.

Card Counting is very new to me and it was confusing to understand - but by following along with their example, it finally begun to sink in. And yes - it does add a new dimension to tarot reading. I had a basic understanding of Elemental Dignities but this book cleared up any lingering questions I had. I am a very visual learner and by having Catherine's reading to "see" what was happening, I put the pieces together and was able to understand where they got their interpretations. This is a huge plus in my opinion.

Not only do we get to see the methods in action but we get to see Catherine grow as a tarot reader and visionary. This made the book a very personal experience, not just some old dry tarot book that would have bored me to tears. I highly recommend this to any tarot reader - but especially to those who are looking to shake up their current reading style. Trust me, you will never look at tarot the same!

Blessings!
Theresa

Learn more about the authors and their techniques at their websites:

Paul Hughes Barlow at Supertarot
Catherine Chapman at Tarot Elements

Foreward written by:
Douglas Gibb at Tarot Eon

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The Prediction Predicament

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 23:30:00 GMT

A few years ago, I was sitting in my office when suddenly a flash came before my eyes. I darted upstairs to breathlessly tell my husband "I just had a vision! Someone is going to give me monkey socks!" He looked at me quizzically and then continued on with what he was doing. Months later, one of my clients sat down for a reading and casually said "I have a present for you" and proceeds to hand me a pair of green socks with monkeys on them! I almost fell out of my chair as I quickly ran upstairs to excitedly show my husband. "Great... my wife can predict a pair of monkey socks but not the winning lottery numbers." he replied with a smirk and rolling eyes.

Living with a psychic has taken some of the element (and excitement) of surprise away from him. I've even managed to ruin many a birthday and holiday as I am such a good gift guesser that he must now resort to elaborate schemes to get me off the scent. I often will deliver an answer before he even utters the question. So he no longer gets a thrill when I have a "vision". When every day is prediction day, it becomes second nature and rather common.

Thank goodness my clients never tire of it though or I'd be talking to a blank wall. Working as a tarot reader has allowed me to utilize my intuition in a way that can aid my clients and help them to navigate life's ups and downs with a bit more grace. However, I have noticed that "fortune telling" has fallen out of favor in my line of work. Many tarot readers and other intuitives shy away from it. Why?

One reason is that some modern tarot authors have presented the tarot as a tool for psychoanalysis - and a new trend of using tarot not as a fortune telling device but as a method of therapy has become very popular. Some authors prescribe to an "interactive" style of tarot reading where the querent looks at the cards and tells the reader what they mean to them, turning a tarot session into a therapy session. While this can be helpful in many cases, the art of prediction gets lost in the process.

An argument I have heard is that fortune telling is "disempowering" or "unethical". How? Its been said that a predicted event implies that the querent has "no control" over their lives. As a huge believer in free will, I find this to be nonsense. After all, nothing is cut in stone. In my opinion, having an idea of what may transpire empowers a client in a major way. It's like doing a road trip with a map. If you have an idea of where you are going, can't you decide if you want to go down a different path if you don't like the view? And isn't that easier to do when you have the map in hand?

Another consideration is the ego factor. We tarot readers tend to be a sensitive lot. Some are not comfortable with the idea that they'll be proven wrong. Like weathermen, we look at the patterns and make predictions to the best of our abilities. It is definitive fact that only a certain percentage of our predictions will truly hit the mark. That is why this is not work for lightweights or people who are controlled entirely by their egos. It takes a fair amount of cojones to make a prediction. A thick skin is mandatory because in this line of work you're fair game, and many people will WANT you to be wrong. Using the tarot as therapy may be safer in some ways, but you shouldn't let the "fear of being wrong" inhibit you from making predictions and giving your client's reading the full breadth and depth that could provide them the insight they need to guide their lives in a truly practical way.

It may be intimidating to use the tarot to predict But think about it this way - why do people come to see psychics, tarot readers and astrologers? They come to learn about future events. Not providing this service to a client is akin to visiting a dentist who talks about cleaning your teeth rather than actually doing it.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

I'd love to hear your thoughts about predicting. Leave your comments below!

Countdown To 2010

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 14:12:00 GMT

I have to confess something. I'm a wee bit OCD. I've never been actually diagnosed but it is obvious to me as some of my habits are a bit repetitive. In fact, most morning are like Groundhog's Day around here. Maybe it's the Catholic girl in me but I enjoy doing things in a systematic and ritualistic manner.

In fact, there is very little in my life that is unplanned. Odd for a Gemini and a free spirit, eh? Perhaps that feeling of structure keeps me calm and grounded (or maybe there is a little Joan Crawford burning deep in my heart?).

Some of my weird little invented customs do produce magical results though. Let me share my secret little New Years Ritual with you as an example. I've been doing it for years now and I swear it works almost too well. Here's what I do - first, I check my numerology for the year and find out what my "yearly number" will be. (This is the number that defines the overall tone of the year.) It's not hard to figure out and you don't have to be a math whiz to do it. For example, I am born on June 11. Since next year will be 2010, I am going to add the numbers from my birthday to 2010 and reduce it all down to a single digit:

6+1+1+2+0+1+0 = 11
Reduce 1+1 = 2

So my number for 2010 is a 2 year. Next, I find out the "theme" for the year based on the number. I HIGHLY recommend you check out Chris Delorey's Creative Numerology site to read her interpretations for your year. Her descriptions are very detailed and accurate. (http://creativenumerology.com/index.php?inc=includes/yearlycycles.html) According to Chris, a 2 year is about slowing down, developing patience and relationships.

Based on that information, I pick a "theme song" - perhaps Guns and Roses "Patience" or The Eagles "Take It Easy" (I actually won't be using either of those as my theme song is always top secret plus I hate those songs!). At exactly Midnight when the year changes, I listen to my theme song (with the advent of You Tube I now get to watch it as a video!). And voila - the tone is set and the magic begins for me! It is interesting to see how my year develops - often I will listen to the theme song to reinforce the magic - or something will happen and I'll immediately think of the song.

But a sage word of advice - I learned the HARD way to be VERY careful in my song choices. Sometimes this works a little too well and if the song is a bummer in any way, I can guarantee that those vibes are very much in play. I choose now as carefully as if I were choosing to write my will! If you try this little ritual, I'd love to know your results (if you think it is weird or cheesy, just humor me, okay?). Or post your own New Years Eve rituals in the comments section below - I'd love to hear what you do on this magical night!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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PS Don't forget that this new years we end with a Full Moon, Blue Moon and Lunar Eclipse - the potential for powerful change is in the air - think big!

How To Give A Fabulous Tarot Reading

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 00:30:00 GMT

In my last post I wrote about getting a great tarot reading. But what about how to GIVE one? Many new readers struggle with this and I get asked all the time for advice. Whether you are a tarot reading newbie or an old pro, here are a few tips to help you give awesome tarot readings:

1. Ground yourself. No matter how talented you are, if you are not calm and present, your readings will suffer. It is imperative that your mind is in a good place so the information you receive will be accurate and not tainted by your moods or issues. I highly recommend that you learn to meditate. A consistent meditation practice will center your mind, allowing for more focus and a better connection to your own inner wisdom. If you are the ansty type (I am), take up yoga. It has a wonderful way of "tricking" you into a meditative state. Every day I do a yoga practice and meditate. I can personally attest that it has helped my readings immensely.

2. Prep your environment. Be sure the place you read in is tranquil and clean. Although I am a cluttery gal, I keep my office neat and free of messy distractions. I like to burn a little incense to create a nice vibe and I play some soft music in the background. Candles and crystals are also a nice touch for creating a spiritual mood. My clients often remark that my office is soothing.

3. Uncross your legs and arms. This sounds silly but if you like to sit with crossed feet or arms, it can "block energy". Plant your feet firmly on the ground and refrain from a closed off stance. I sometimes like to put my feet up on another chair. While this may not be totally grounding, it is relaxing for me.

4. Get rid of unnecessary distractions. In other words, if you have unfriendly dogs, screaming kids or a nosy spouse, scoot them out of your room. I have two friendly cats that can really be a pain. At times I will allow them in the office (some clients even insist on their presence!), but when they get too obnoxious, they get the boot!

5. Be sober. No one enjoys a cocktail as much as I do - however, a tipsy tarot reader is never a good thing. You need to be conscious in order to receive information properly. (I know of one psychic who did a reading for two senior citizens while he was tripping on acid! He said it was NOT a groovy experience as he could barely function!) If you like to imbibe, do it after your work. Your clients deserve a fully functional reader!

6. Practice often. The best tarot readers constantly practice to perfect their art. Whether this means doing readings on a regular basis or learning new techniques from other sources, keep on practicing. The more you do it, the better you will get. Read for everyone who is interested.

7. Get your ego out of it. If you are worried about "being wrong" or on the other hand enamored with your own abilities, you are bound to fail. Learn to be neutral. Deliver information without attaching your emotions, ego, or need for validation to the reading. Simply read.

Happy tarot reading!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

© The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed | www.thetarotlady.com

What are your tips for giving a good tarot reading? Share them in the comments section!

How To Get A Great Tarot Reading

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 20:05:00 GMT

I get asked a lot about my work - not just about what it means to be a tarot reader but about the cards and readings in general. One of the things clients seem to be most concerned about is how to get the most out of their tarot reading. Here is a little sage advice I like to pass on for anyone who is considering visiting a tarot reader:

1. I always suggest that people bring a list of questions that are important to them. The reason why - you may get so wrapped up in what the tarot reader is saying that you walk out without asking your most significant questions (it has happened to me!). Reflect on the issues that are the most crucial and write them down. This way, you insure the reading focuses on relevant things.

2. Avoid getting a reading if you are in a distressed state. You will not hear a word the reader is saying. The best time to get a reading is when you are calm and able to be mentally present.

3. Try not to interrupt the reader. For myself, the information comes like a ticker tape in my mind and when a client repeatedly interrupts, it breaks the flow of information. Wait until it is time to ask your questions (I always allow a generous period to ask questions).

4. Tape your reading. This is a great idea for those who tend to be forgetful. If you have a recorder, bring it. Most tarot readers won't mind. (I personally hate the sound of my own voice - but hey, I'm not listening to it so tape away!) Otherwise, a notepad is another option. Some of my clients will even bring a buddy along who acts as a "secretary" and takes notes for them!

5. Keep an open mind and attitude. If you come into a reading with a "prove it to me" stance, you are setting a tone which is not conducive. In fact, some of us find it downright rude! I am not saying you should spill your life story when you walk in the door (I never encourage that either), but relax, uncross your arms and don't be so defensive. Personally, I find it puzzling when someone comes in for a tarot reading but does everything possible to drag a red herring all over the place. What is the point? To prove the reader is wrong? Or to really "make them work"? RELAX. A relaxed YOU leads to a clear reading and allows the tarot reader to do their work without feeling like they have a gun to their head.

6. And most importantly, choose a tarot reader you TRUST. Best way to find a good one? Word of mouth. Listen to other people's experiences and then decide if the reader is a good fit for you.

Happy tarot reading!
Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

© The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed | www.thetarotlady.com

Nothing's Shocking - The Art Of The Pokerface

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 00:44:00 GMT

A well dressed, attractive woman walked into my office and sat down for a tarot reading. Nothing about her stood out as unusual except for her visible nervous energy. No biggie - lots of people are anxious about getting their cards read, especially if they have a lot of drama in their lives. After starting out with a general outlook for the year, we began to focus on her questions. It seemed her main concern was about an upcoming party she was throwing.

I tossed a couple of cards and glanced at them, noticing that they were a rather "odd" combination but ultimately indicated a successful ending. After a look of relief and joy swept over her face, my curiosity got the best of me and I asked her what kind of party she was throwing (assuming it was some sort of masquerade or something unique). "Oh we're getting a bunch of crack and having a wife swapping party" she said without batting an eye.

Did my jaw drop at this announcement? Nope. I didn't flinch a bit. My reaction (or lack thereof) was as casual as if we were discussing the weather.

As a tarot reader, you'll find that there are all kinds of situations that your clients may inquire about. While the majority of people like to ask about family, work or love, on rare occasion you may encounter someone who has a shocking or upsetting situation that they need (and deserve) answers to.

So what can a good reader do when a client lays something heavy on you?

1. Leave your judgments at the door. As the old saying goes: different strokes for different folks. We can't always understand other people's motives and/or emotions - nor do we need to as tarot readers. We are only here to deliver information and help guide the client. If you have a particular attitude about a certain lifestyle, get over it.

2. Don't be a moralist. A wife swapping crack party is not my cup of tea but I have no business trying to force others to conform to my own worldview. I have learned to hold my tongue and mind my own karma. Be ethical in your advice but refrain from windy criticism or lectures. The client may already feel bad enough without your sidebar.

3. Desensitize yourself a bit. This may sound like strange advice, but a few years living in a very bad neighborhood in New York and hanging out with some seedy characters allowed me to become less "shockable". While I still encounter a situation here and there that may raise an eyebrow, I've seen enough crazy things that I am rarely surprised by people's behaviors.

4. Be honest about your own skeletons in the closet. I've got quite a collection of them myself and sometimes sharing my own mistakes and war stories shows the client that they are not alone and helps them deal with feelings of shame or fear.

5. Practice compassion. You must always walk a mile in someone else's shoes before you judge them. Any time I find myself getting too self righteous, I remember the saying: there but for the grace of God go I. Meaning that we could ALL end up in any situation at any time. We must never think that we are above making critical mistakes or getting into messy situations. Even the most educated people can screw up majorly! Compassion is not pity - it is the ability to understand someone on a deep level and truly care about their well being.

A tarot reading may be the one place where someone can - and should be able to - freely share their life stories. As a tarot reader, you need to embody the trust of a priest, the compassion of a therapist and the humor of a comedian in order to help your clients feel safe and heard.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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You Don't Own Me - Part 2: When To Let Go Of A Client

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 21:07:00 GMT

Although I consider myself first and foremost a tarot reader, I am also a professional and I tend to be very business like in my dealings. Most people who have worked with me know that I run my ship tightly - not only do I have regular hours like any job but my days can consist of all manner of tedious tasks from bookkeeping to returning calls and emails. (It's not all glamorous tarot work that I do here in my hub!)

As a business professional, I have to be realistic that not every person that calls or walks in the door is meant to be a lifetime client. As I wrote in my previous post, some people may never come back for whatever reason. But there are also times when I have had to show someone the door. As much as I hate doing this (believe it or not, my bark is worse than my bite!), it is often not only beneficial for me but sometimes in the best interest of the client.

When is it right to "fire" a client?

Any tarot reader will have their own reasons why. For me, it all comes down to two things - respect and compatibility. Here are some of the reasons I have needed to cut a client off:

1. No shows. This is my number one pet peeve. A client who doesn't even have the courtesy to give me a simple phone call to cancel never gets another chance. There are some who think I am sitting here with nothing else to do. Believe me, I can either fill that spot if you didn't show - or there are many other projects I can busy myself with (like writing this blog!). To me, this is the rudest gesture as I make this time available and find it incredibly disrespectful.

2. Dickering over prices. I hate haggling. I don't even do it when I travel. I know in some cultures, this is a common thing, but for me, it feels uncomfortable. If you can't afford me, then don't come. Simple as that. A woman who had booked a few parties with me in the past tried to tell me that "no one will pay that" when my prices changed - and then she tried to negotiate a price break. I refused to do business with her ever again. If you provide a service, you should be paid well for your time. I learned this from my son's drum instructor. Years ago, he had also changed policies and this required a steep price hike. When I visibly gulped, he said to me: "The lessons are free. It is my time you are paying for and I value my time very much." I used that as a business mantra ever since.

3. Using the tarot reading in an unethical way. I am not a moralist but I do not want my readings used in any way but for someone's higher good. Once they leave the office, I have no control over what a client may do with the information I provide. On rare occasion, I do hear through the grapevine that someone may have twisted my words to suit a purpose. For example, a married man got a reading from me and wanted to know if he could "have an affair". The reading said he "could" if he was so inclined. So what does he do? Proceeds a few weeks later to hit on a woman and tell her that "Theresa the tarot reader said I should have an affair so I'm looking for a woman". Unfortunately for him, she was a friend of mine and reported back to me. Banned for life.

4. Personality conflicts. Sometimes for no fault of the client or mine, our personalities don't mesh. If I am uncomfortable with a person's vibe, I won't read for them. The reading won't work well if I am tense. This is never easy but I must face the facts that I cannot possibly read for every person. For example, aggressive or super neurotic types don't wash for me (I also don't read well for "Debbie Downers"). I will generally refer them to a more suitable tarot reader. In my opinion, is better to bring them to a person who will be more sympathetic to their energy rather than struggle through the reading myself.

5. They are beyond your ability to help. This is a case where someone may need more help that you can give them - for example someone who needs psychiatric care. I used to see a woman who was in an abusive relationship. She would only come to me when they broke up - and her questions revolved around whether or not her abuser would come back to her. (He always did, unfortunately.) She never wanted to get any help to change her situation - she was only concerned about preserving this sick dynamic at all costs. No amount of tarot readings were going to break the cycle she had created for herself. This was too hard for me to deal with and beyond my ability to reach into her and crack open this vicious cycle she was actively pursuing. This is a sign that someone needs professional help. I gave her the number of a good therapist and refused to see her again. (All readers should not provide legal, medical or psychiatric services - have a list of appropriate resources handy for referrals if you encounter someone who needs to seek professional help.)

Ultimately, it all comes down to healthy boundaries and mutual respect. While this is an intuitive and often times emotionally charged business, it IS still a business. If you are working as a tarot reader, it is up to you to decide who you can serve and how best you can serve them with policies that create appropriate boundaries and a fair and clear presentation that allows clients to know what they can expect.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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You Don't Own Me - When Clients Leave

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:30:00 GMT

A few weeks ago, I had a client call me in a panic. "I cheated on you" she breathlessly proclaimed as she launched into a tale of woe about an experience with another tarot reader. Cheating on me? That dramatic statement made me laugh but it got me wondering. Why do clients go to other readers, especially if they claim to like your services? Why do some leave, never to be heard of again? And more importantly, what are my own feelings regarding "loyalty"?

A client may decide that they want to visit another reader for some of the following reasons:

1. They want a second opinion. Perhaps they are a Nervous Nelly type that needs a lot of confirmation. Or maybe they don't feel your read is accurate for them and may want to see if someone else says something more to their liking. There are even a few that will go from reader to reader to reader - until they get the answer they want. (This is rather obsessive in my opinion.)

2. They may want to try something different. I am mainly a tarot reader. If someone is looking for deep chart analysis, past life regressions, mediums, dream interpretations or palmistry, they may be better off seeking the services of a specialist. I am not all things to all people (I'd like to be, but am wise enough to know my own limits!).

3. They can't wait. Oftentimes, my schedule is jam packed. This can leave a client in a bad position if they need a reading pronto. So, they may look around to find someone who is more available. Also, a client who lives at a distance may want to meet with someone in their area. If I could astral travel, I would - but that ain't happening.

Why would a client leave permanently?

1. Budget woes. Whenever I raise my rates (which is rare), there is always a little fallout. People sometimes can't afford it - or feel angered that I am not at the prices I was at 20 years ago. I had one lady yell at me and hang up the phone when I told her my new rates. She never called again (although if she did, I would have fired her in a heartbeat!).

2. Personality clashes. I like to think of myself as a pretty easy going type. But on occasion, a person may walk in the door and feel that I am not in sync with them. And vice versa. Pushy and aggressive types don't seem to stick around me very much (this makes me quite happy). Super negative types also tend to slink away if I don't reinforce their crummy world view. On a few rare occasions, a client has suddenly become super religious and decided I was "evil". That pretty much nipped any relationship we had in the bud.

3. You offended them. This can happen quite innocently. The reading starts off fine but all of a sudden, you drop an F bomb or say something that makes the client squirm. Remember the androgynous SNL character, Pat? Well, I had one sit in front of me when I was reading at an occult shop years ago. For some puzzling reason that I still cannot fathom, I opened my mouth and these words tumbled out before I could catch myself "What are you?". She was a she - and she had a great sense of humor about it but was obviously deeply hurt by my remark. I recovered and did a decent reading but she never came to see me again. I would run into her in the shop, we'd nod but pretty much avoid each other. Politics and religious talk can also alienate clients - so you may need to keep some of your beliefs to yourself.

4. Your reading sucked. You may think you are a tarot superstar but sooner or later, you'll run into that one person you couldn't read. And yup, to them, your reading was "way off" or "crappy". This is a huge blow to the ego but it happens to all of us. You can't read for everyone. There are lots of reasons why this could happen - an off day, a lack of vibe between you, they may be closed minded, etc. And some people will think you stink even if you are accurate because they simply don't want to believe. Get over it.

How to handle it?

The first thing to learn: don't take anything personally. This requires a lot of inner work and a good dose of humility. And I don't mean false humility: the "it's not me, only spirit doing the readings through me" statements that are so frequently tossed about. I mean REAL soul searching humility that requires you to take responsibility for your readings. Realize your own limitations as a reader and be realistic about your client's needs. Know that you will at times offend, disappoint, piss off and even do a poor job. This comes with ANY profession. Let go, brush yourself off, laugh and move on.

Secondly, practice the law of non-grasping. This simply means that you must acknowledge that your clients have free will and don't owe you anything. Respect them as independent, intelligent human beings who will always know what is in their OWN best interest. If they are not happy with your services, recommend them to someone that may be a better fit. This is not only good for them but for YOU.

I've been grateful over the years for the many clients that continue to use my services. Some have been with me since my humble beginnings almost 20 years ago. I am always thankful for their support. A few have even become dear friends. But I am equally appreciative for the ones who have taught me lessons and made me learn the art of non-attachment. I go with the flow and could not have learned to do this without them.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

Watch for "You Don't Own Me Part Two - When To Fire A Client" soon!

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Guest Blogging At Tarot Elements

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:10:00 GMT

I had the excellent opportunity to guest post at one of my favorite blogs, Tarot Elements. My article was about one of the spreads I use, The Horseshoe Spread. I have been using this layout for years (many of you who come to my office will recognize it) and find it to be deep and reliable.

Check out my entry by clicking HERE.

Psssttt..........while you are at it, be sure to check out some of the other fabulous posts at Tarot Elements! There are many great articles that you may enjoy!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

5 Things Every Professional Tarot Reader Needs

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 18:25:00 GMT

You think all you need are a deck of cards and you're ready to roll? Not quite. If you make the leap from tarot fan to tarot professional, there are a few things you'll need:

1. Sturdy Tarot Cards - If you have a lot of people handling your decks, you need to purchase decks made on good card stock. So choose carefully. I've had some decks that lasted years and others only a few months. Recently, I purchased the Sharman Caselli deck, which was made on rather thin paper. One aggressive shuffler later, the deck was toast.

2. A Quiet Room - I'm lucky as I have my own spacious office, right in my home. This allows me to control the environment and make it as peaceful as I need it. My clients often remark at how calm and relaxing my space is. If you are not able to have your own office, try to find a local coffee shop or other public venue that is as laid back as possible. Even a small corner in a room at your home is fine as long as there are not too many distractions.

3. Phone And Email - This is a no brainer but you would not believe how many tarot readers I know who have neither! (This is one of the many reasons we have a flaky reputation!) I don't know how their clients can find them! I've had the same phone number for 15 years - so my clients have no trouble finding me if they lost my business card. The world wide web has made things even easier and many clients love being able to shoot me an email, which can sometimes be easier than catching me by phone! If you change your number, make sure that your clients are able to get the new one. And while you're at it - don't forget to have business cards with your phone and email plainly written.

4. A Good Accountant - I adore my accountant, Sam and he is worth his weight in gold! He keeps me on track, makes sure my taxes are paid and always has good advice about money. If you decide to go pro, remember that you will be paying self employment tax (which feels like a penalty at times!). A reliable accountant will ensure you keep your books straight and stay on good terms with the taxman!

5. Thick Skin - This is one profession where people feel free to call you a devil worshipper, a fraud, etc. so if you are sensitive to judgments, you are going to get your feelings hurt a lot. Some clients can dump on you or have unrealistic expectations of your services. And there is always one jerk who wants to prove you wrong. This comes with the territory. Learn to let things roll, do the very best that you can and don't take anything personally.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

Introducing Mystical Mondays

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 18:11:00 GMT

Dear friends

As you know a few wonderful colleagues and I have started our new forum and blog. I'll be contributing a post every Monday called "Mystical Mondays", where I will answer your questions personally! Please send me your questions at: tarotlady@wi.rr.com with "Mystical Mondays" in the subject line for consideration. Please know that I will not be able to guarantee that your question will be answered.

Check out the blog now to see the first installment:

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

And We Have A Winner....

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 12:58:00 GMT

Congratulations to Kathy, who won a FREE tarot reading with me! Be sure to check out her compelling story in the comments section of the recent post "She Shares Sixth Sense By The Seashore"

And a big thank you for everyone who entered and shared such great stories about their own psychic experiences. Watch for other contests soon!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

Announcement - New Forum and Blog!

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 17:32:00 GMT

Are a you an astrology buff or tarot fanatic? Want a place to discuss or learn more? Well, along with three partners in crime, Suzi (aka Starcana), Jan (aka Astrogrrl) and Kat (aka Taurus Rising), we've created a forum and blog for tarot and astrology enthusiasts!

The forum will be a great place to share and learn. Post your questions, insights and topics of interest. (You must register to post by the way.) And the blog will be a place for us to enlighten and entertain you with articles, contests and more.

Visit by clicking on the links below:

Be there or T-Square!
Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

She Shares Sixth Sense By The Seashore

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 22:18:00 GMT

A young woman came into my office the other day. When I pulled out my tarot cards, she said with great disappointment, "Oh. You're a card reader. I thought you were a psychic and would just tell me things." Sometimes a client will expect me to be able to see ghosts and auras, talk to the dead, read their mind and/or play some strange guessing game with them. Although I have been able to do those feats at times, I make no great claims to be anything other than a simple card reader.

I always say that "anyone can learn to read cards" but to be honest, if you don't have a good grasp on your intuitive side, it may not work quite as well. I compare it to a musician who can play an instrument but has no passion for the music. So although I claim to "just" read cards, the truth is, I am reading energy or vibes at the same time I am looking at those cards.

I've always had a highly developed intuition although I didn't understand it when I was young. I just knew that I saw things differently. Strange dreams, contact with spirits and "knowing" something was going to happen were common occurrences for me. I naively assumed that everyone had these experiences. As I got a little older, I kept my mouth shut about these things because some people made me feel that I was "weird". As I look back on that, I have to laugh because that very thing that set me apart and made me feel "different" has been such an important part of my journey and a blessing as well.

Life lessons taught me that intuition serves an important purpose. Many times, I did not listen to that inner voice - and I suffered the consequences. Other times, I would follow my gut and things would flow beautifully. We all have this ability within us. I am not special just because I use it for my living. In fact, many police officers would tell you that they rely on it too. If we all learned to trust our instinctual nature more, perhaps we could live more enlightened lives. Or at the very least, make wiser decisions.

Now - let me share a few of my favorite stories about psychic experiences with you.

1. The intuition runs in my family strong. My Irish grandmother had keen perception and was a very superstitious woman. One morning, she was sitting in her favorite chair and she saw an image of a man, dressed in work clothes standing before her. She called out to him but he disappeared. At the time, she lived with her son, Frances. When he came down the stairs, she told him not to go to work. Later in the day, she got the news that her other son was killed at work.

2. When I lived in New York, there was a very handsome man that used to flirt with me. Technically, he was my "type" but something seemed "off", so I demurred his advances. We did become friends but I always kept my distance. A few months later, he was arrested for murdering his girlfriend. I'll spare you the gruesome details but I thanked spirit for looking out for me.

3. A few years ago, my mother was ill in the hospital. This was common as she was a very sick woman for as long as I can remember. The doctor visited with her and made the statement that she had about a year to live. I asked him, what that meant (I like details) and he said "I don't have a crystal ball but her heart is failing and she has maybe a year". That night, I was walking with my husband and I felt a sensation like someone sawing my umbilical cord. I said out loud "She doesn't have a year. She's dying now." She had a stroke that night and died three days later.

As you can see, intuition can play a part in many aspect of our lives. It can warn, it can confirm, it can prepare. How does your intution serve you?

Blessings,
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

PS Want to WIN A FREE HALF HOUR PHONE READING? Here's how: in the comments section below, write your own story about a psychic experience that you have had. I'll randomly draw a name and the winner will receive the FREE HALF HOUR PHONE READING WITH ME!!! But hurry - this is a timely contest - all entries must be completed by Saturday, October 3rd! Drawing will be on Sunday, October 4th. Winners will be announced by email and on this blog. Comments are moderated to prevent spam, so your entry may not show up right away - be patient! Can't wait to hear your story!!!!

It's My Party And I'll Scry If I Want To

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 18:56:00 GMT

Since the beginning of my tarot career, I have worked at various types of parties and venues. In fact, this time of year tends to be quite popular with Halloween right around the corner! (That date usually gets booked a year in advance!)

Over the years, I've had great experiences and not-so-good ones. Let me share a few as this may help you to know what to expect if you are ever asked to work a party.

In some ways, parties are more challenging than working in my own office. First of all, I have no control over the environment. Which means I am either in a calm room or a chaotic mess. The most extreme example was the time I entered a dim apartment above a bar. I have terrible night vision but I thought I saw something run across the table. After my eyes adjusted, I watched cockroaches running up and down the wall and mice scuttering about with great urgency. Horrified, I clutched my purse to my lap and silently prayed that I would not take any roaches home with me. I refused to read for these people again. In fact, I now avoid going to areas that may be sketchy. It's just not worth it.

I've had the good fortune of meeting some wonderful hosts that make me feel very welcome. There is nothing nicer than coming into a home where you are made to feel like a valued guest, rather than the "hired help". One of my favorite clients has a party every November and it is always a treat to go to her house. Not only does she have a beautiful and comfortable home, but I am made to feel like a friend of the family. There is always an invite to eat or imbibe as well as a cozy room to read in.

There will always be a few rude ones who expect that you "owe" them something since they booked you. One time, a woman asked me if I wanted to join them for a bite to eat before I began reading. I took a very small plate of chips and snacks. We were chatting a bit when all of a sudden she asks me in front of the whole group of people if I was going to give her a "hostess gift" since she was "providing the space and the food". I was so shocked that I could barely utter a word. It was not easy to get in the mood to read after that!

At another event, a client brought me a sandwich to eat and then asked me when I would be "giving him a free reading". He added "we've been awfully good to you" (because he gave me a sandwich??). As you can probably guess, I stopped doing parties for both of these clients. I can't or won't read for people that offend me. I find myself being unable to because this attitude makes me incredibly uncomfortable. And when I am not feeling relaxed, it is difficult to read.

On occasion, you may find yourself getting stuck reading for a jerk. When you are in the party atmosphere, you are at the mercy of whoever the host invites. I remember walking into one house where the whole gathering was a group of gang members! It was a scene straight out of "Training Day"! The questions revolved around police and who was betraying who. I read those cards on pins and needles, worrying that if the wrong card came up, I'd be helping to sign someone's death warrant!

I've gotten better at screening who will be at these parties - but you never know. Sometimes there may be a drunk in attendance. Or the one "skeptic" who wants to challenge you in front of the whole group. I take it all in stride now. I have dealt with enough mean people that I no longer take any of it personally. I'm not even afraid to say that I won't read for a person right to their face. "Is it worth it to me?" is what I ask myself. If the answer is no, I won't even put myself into a situation that isn't healthy or positive.

When I was first reading, I would travel all over the place. As I've gotten older, I realized that I really don't like driving much. So, I've put some limits on my driving time. I've lost a few clients who were mad at this development but I just don't see the point in driving for an hour each way. Especially in bad weather. I've driven in a few blizzards and won't do it any longer. Last year, I got stuck in an unexpected snowstorm that developed during the party. It was a white knuckled drive the whole way home and I barely missed being hit a few times!

Once in a great blue moon, I've gotten shortchanged. It is an embarrassing thing for me and the host. I don't have an issue calling and getting my money - but that uncomfortable exchange has cost me a client or two. I don't really care as it is the principle to me. If I am owed another 20 dollars, then I am owed it. Period. I've even gotten overpaid in one situation! The client called me the next day (I had not even counted the money yet!) and I was able to get the money back to her immediately. It works both ways!

One of my biggest pet peeves is an unorganized event. This is when I end up sitting, with nothing to do. It usually happens because the hostess has not gotten her situation under control. I now insist that readings MUST be back to back and that has pretty much solved that problem. I also request an EXACT head count. This way, I know how to budget my time and this makes the hostess take her party more seriously. It may seem a bit controlling, but saves countless headaches in the long run. Trust me on that.

Knowing my own limits is probably the most important lesson. I have restricted the hours I will read. Back in the day, I would do parties that lasted 6 hours or more. It was like a psychic gang bang and very draining! I gradually cut my time down. Now, 3 hours is the max because my voice starts to go after all that talking. My body has given me the signal that my stamina is not what it used to be and I must heed that. In my opinion, a shorter party means more quality readings anyway.

If you decide to venture into doing parties as part of your tarot career, make sure you have some basic boundaries in place. Not only will you stay sane but you'll help to make these events a success for the hosts as well! Party on!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

Great Sites For Learning To Read Tarot Cards

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 19:07:00 GMT

With the advent of the internet, it is easier than ever to learn how to read tarot cards. There are many good sites and blogs that are dedicated to tarot practitioners of all levels. Whether you are just starting out or wanting to learn some new methods, the world wide web is full of places to enhance your tarot experience.

My blog is primarily for those who are already reading tarot - especially the ones venturing into the world of reading professionally. I am all about helping readers become better, saner readers - so many of my posts focus on concerns of professional readers. I don't teach methods on this blog but I know of a few relevant sites that I heartily recommend. Read on:

1. Learning The Tarot - (www.learntarot.com)This fabulous site by author Joan Bunning is based on her book "Learning The Tarot". With lessons, online courses, detailed charts, you are sure to learn the tarot effortlessly. I'm a huge fan of her book for beginners - so this is a good place to start.

2. The Tarot School - (http://www.tarotschool.com/) Founded by Ruth and Wald Amberstone, authors of books such as "The Secret Language of Tarot", this site offers online lessons, teleclasses and a correspondence course. They also sponsor a Readers Studio every year, where you can connect with famous tarot readers and improve your skills. You can't go wrong with these guys.

2. Supertarot: Learning The Tarot - (http://supertarot.co.uk/) Based on the Golden Dawn system, Paul Hughes Barlow presents a thorough and readable site that can bring your tarot skills to new levels, whether you read with this system or not. I like to learn new things and have found his site to be a great read. Highly recommended.

4. Musings On Tarot - (http://tarotbyarwen.com/blog/) Arwen Lynch is a talented writer and her insights on tarot are interesting and playful. If you are the creative type, you'll appreciate her unique spin on things. A very different way of looking at tarot.

5. Taroteon - (http://taroteon.com/) - Probably my favorite blog of all - Douglas Gibb and a few other writers have put together the most intelligent and intriguing blog I have ever come across. This is the place where my brain gets a thorough workout and I look at the tarot with brand new eyes as I peruse the offerings. Superb writing, intense philosophical thought and clever ideas make this a blog for true tarot lovers.

6. Tarot Elements - (http://www.tarotelements.com/) - Another blog worth peeking at, Tarot Elements is written by tarot reader Catherine Chapman and is chock full of good articles. There is a lot of information on the Elemental Dignities that shouldn't be missed - she explains this so well that anyone can grasp the concept.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

Public Events - The Good, The Bad and The Ugly

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 14:52:00 GMT

You’ve seen them before. Maybe you’ve even worked at one of them. Psychic fairs, spirit fairs, renaissance fairs….they come with all different names. Are they worth participating in?

I retired from public appearances many years ago. I have read tarot in occult shops, small fairs, bars in addition to lecturing at bookstores. It provided stellar experience and really helped to hone my skills but I am at a point now where I feel more comfortable in my own office.

But for many tarot readers, these fairs and other venues can be a great resource for clients, exposure and money. Before you consider donning a costume and signing up for one,let me give you a few insights that may help you decide if you want to be out and about or behind the scenes.

Let’s look at the good, the bad and the ugly,shall we?

The Good:

Public appearances are the easiest and best way to promote yourself. Whether you are on television, in a fair or reading at a public event, you have the opportunity to get yourself in people’s faces. This allows people to see YOU and get a feel for what you are doing. There is no better way to do this. Make sure you bring business cards and brochures to these events!
You can build a client base fast. This is especially important if you are a new reader. Where do you start to find clients? Any public event is sure to attract some new people who may click with you. The more you are out there, the more likely and quickly you will meet potential clients. Some of my best and most loyal clients came from my public appearances!
You can connect with other readers.Community is vital to readers. Many of us work in secret or feel isolated. If you have the opportunity to meet other readers, you can share war stories, support each other and refer when necessary.
You get to wear fun costumes. At some events, like renaissance fairs, you get to be gypsy or knave for the day! If you are the type who likes to play dress up, this is your chance to do it and getaway with it!
You have the chance to educate people about Tarot. There are many misconceptions about Tarot – namely that it is “evil”. These events are an opportunity to dispel myths and allow people to become familiar with the wisdom of the Tarot. My lectures at the bookstores, for example, were an excellent way for me to answer questions about my work.

The Bad:

You have no control over who you will have to serve. Drunks, crazies, rude people –they all can show up at your table and you may be stuck with some potential drama. Years ago, I was at one event and a belligerent drunk started screaming at me and calling me Satan. He went on a tirade for about 20 minutes and no one did ANYTHING. I was extremely frightened. Finally some guy came to my rescue and dragged this jerk away.
Your reputation is tied up to the event. If the host of the affair loses face for any reason, you may be forever linked to their name. Make sure you are working with ethical, reputable people.
The environment may be unsuitable.Outdoor festivals can be thwarted by Mother Nature (I’ve had cards blow away on a windy afternoon!). Indoor venues maybe dirty, loud or unorganized. One time I got set up next to a speaker system and had to scream my readings over the music. Not a fun night in my Tarot career!
You may be forced to wear a costume.Personally, I don’t like to wear one so for me, this is a deal breaker.

The Ugly

You could ripped off. There are some very unscrupulous vendors out there. Be sure to get a contract if possible. Keep good tabs on how many clients you read for. Balance out what you are owed. If they give you a check, be sure you have information handy if the check bounces. I learned these tips from my husband, who is a musician and has dealt with many public events and a few crooked vendors. I’ve been very lucky and this has not happened to me – but I know of others who have had some pretty sour experiences.
Burn out comes quicker. Too many events, long nights, rude people – it can wear your nerves down quicker than you can say Major Arcana. Space these out wisely.
Some vendors are fickle and vicious. I worked long and hard to help another person establish their business only to have them turn on me for no reason. They went out of their way to bash me. Ironically, they failed a few years later and I’m still going strong.
Some readers don't like to share the spotlight. I attended an event once where another tarot reader copped an attitude with me because she thought I had more clients than her. It created a very uncomfortable vibe in the air and made it hard for me to stay focused on my work. I don't like being given the stink eye when I am trying to do my job!

Can I close off by making a confession here? I am actually quite introverted. You’d never guess it if you met me. I hide those sweaty palms and the queasiness quite well. For me, being in the spotlight is a scary affair and I rarely venture into it. But if you decide to grab that brass ring and put yourself out there, I tip my hat to you.

Blessings!

Theresa

www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

Crazy On You

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 22:55:00 GMT

Any kind of psychic work is bound to attract some strange clientele. On rare occasion, a reading may start out innocently enough but quickly turn ugly. What do you do when a client freaks out on you or starts acting in a manner that is troubling? Here are some sound strategies to consider:

1. Don't take it personally - Sometimes people are looking for a dumping ground. It may be triggered by something you said in your reading - it may have nothing whatsoever to do with the reading. Do not attach yourself to the client's issues or reactions. Remain neutral. Do your work from a centered place. When the client is gone, let the reading go. Sometimes a client may even want to blame you if they are having problems. Remember that this is THEIR issue - don't own it.

2. Set a strong boundary - Don't do a reading for a client if they are in a distressed state. Chances are, they won't hear what you say anyway. If a client appears addictive (yes, people can become addicted to psychics), you may want to tell them to only receive readings once a year. Do not allow clients to impose on you - for example, I never allow "quick questions" over the phone as this often leads to me getting an unpaid counseling/reading session with the client and gives them the impression that I am available for dumping at their convenience. Keep regular office hours. I've had clients show up at odd hours, demanding I see them because they were having a "crisis". Now I won't answer the door if it is not during my regular shift.

3. Learn some general counseling skills - Knowing how to talk to someone if they are having mental issues requires compassionate listening and a therapeutic attitude. There are many fine books about counseling skills. One that I like is "Becoming Naturally Therapeutic" by Jacquelyn Smith.

4. Refer to an expert - I keep phone numbers of good therapists and healers handy. If I have a client who is dealing with an issue that I am not qualified to handle, I make sure to direct them to the proper professional. Remember, if you are not a licensed therapist, it is in YOUR best interest to direct a distraught client to the correct help.

5. Be aware and stay calm - Sometimes we may not be sure of how deep seated a client's issues are until we begin the reading. Years ago, I had a young woman come to my office and she seemed normal but a bit "odd". In the middle of the reading, she began sobbing and saying things that were completely bizarre. I instantly realized that she was having a mental breakdown and got her calm. I gave her the number of the therapist and after she left, I called her mother (who was also a client) and alerted her to the daughter's behavior. She was able to get treatment and is now doing fine.

6. Don't entertain delusions - If a client begins saying things that seem crazy, do not just go along with it like it is normal. In other words, don't placate delusions. I was in an occult shop once and a woman walked in, plopped herself down by the Satanist section and began reading a book in earnest. When she was asked if she needed help, she replied "I just took this quiz about Satanic witchcraft and it says I am a Satanic Witch." While some of the staff started laughing, I began talking to her and discovered she had stopped taking her medication the day before. Putting the book back on the shelf, I encouraged her to visit her therapist and get back on her meds.

7. Show them the door - If the reading becomes creepy or uncomfortable, it may be time to show the client the door. Do not keep someone in your office, especially if they seem that they could become dangerous. I had an obsessive client that would call constantly and even showed up at my door, unannounced. I started to become frightened of him and had to tell him VERY firmly not to come around any longer and I had to threaten police involvement. That is a bit extreme but personal safety should not be compromised. If I feel a client may not be stable, I make sure to schedule an appointment when my husband is home. And I refuse to see anyone who is beyond my help or scary.

And remember - this will be rare. Most people who come for readings are wonderful, warm and grounded.
Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

Chatting With John Paul Sharp!

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 23:55:00 GMT

I had the great honor today to be interviewed by awesome blogger, John Paul Sharp! He's a regular on Twitter, a tarot fan like myself and an all around cool guy! Be sure to check out his entries on Tuesdays where he posts his tarot interpretations!

Read my interview by clicking HERE.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

Caring For Your Tarot Deck

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 20:18:00 GMT

When you read for others, your decks are bound to become worn and beat - especially if you are a high volume reader like myself. Although some may feel that a well used deck has more power, I find that eventually, like any tool, the readings can become somewhat dull. (This is just the way I feel, by the way, and no means the final word on whether or not a deck is used up!)

Of course, any deck over a long period will acquire nicks and bends but here's a few tips to preserve your decks:

1. You may want to consider not allowing the questioner to shuffle the deck. Personally, I prefer that they DO - but if you decide to allow someone else to shuffle your deck, you have no control over how rough they will be. Recently, I acquired a beautiful deck that was made on rather thin card stock. An aggressive client shuffled those cards with such fury that she ended up destroying the deck. All it took was that one reading - and poof! They were no longer useful. Think carefully about this. If you are paranoid about a deck being trashed, then don't allow anyone to touch it. Or get decks made on sturdy card stock!

2. Have a variety of decks handy so that you can switch off as often as you'd like. Think of this as rotating the tires on your car - it will give your decks a longer shelf life.

3. When not in use, keep the deck in a silk scarf or in a wooden box.

4. If you travel with your deck, I advise you to keep it in a nice silk bag. I have a lovely one that a dear client made for me years ago. It keeps my deck safe but also reminds me of her whenever I look at it!

What about a deck that has been completely ruined? You can either "retire it" - put it away in your collection or choose to give the deck to a person who may want it. The other option that I like is to put it in a paper bag with an orange cut in half and throw it away, far from your home. I learned this technique from an old magician who disposed of all of his magickal tools this way.

Always remember - your deck is the "window to your soul". Treat it with respect! With a little care, they can last a long time and serve you well.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

Great Expectations

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:07:00 GMT

For many new clients, they may not really know what to expect when they come for a tarot reading. In fact, I find that most people come in with a pretty open mind. But there are always the few that seem to have some unrealistic expectations about what tarot readers can or cannot do.

Here's a list of a few that come into my office on occasion:

1. The Gambler: No, I don't know when to fold them or know when to hold them but apparently some people expect that I can help them win at games of chance. I get the request for "lottery numbers" more than I care to mention. Don't you think if I knew how to win the lottery I'd be driving a Mercedes or retired by now? Once I had a client who asked about his "luck". The cards indicated hard work, not luck. He blamed me for his losing streak after then.

2. The Time Burglar:This is the person who assumes I have nothing to do all day but sit around and wait for them to show up. They are chronically late and don't seem to understand that there are others waiting. I've gotten much better at handling these narcissists but they never fail to annoy me. Yes people, I do have OTHER things to do!

3. The Hex Mistress: Perpetually "unlucky", this sad sack wants me to tell her that she has a curse on her and that her life issues have nothing to do with her poor choices. She doesn't want to take responsibility for her issues and make the changes. She just wants me to "get rid of her bad luck". Sorry, I'm not a miracle worker nor am I going to let you off the hook.

4. The Patient: I'm better than a counselor or so I have been told. Problem is, I am NOT a licensed therapist. This client wants to dump on me and expects me to be able to diagnose their issues. No tarot reader should ever take the place of a professional.I feel that is unethical and does not serve the client. I always refer troubled clients to a good therapist as I won't take that responsibility on. Years ago, I had a woman who came to me and remarked that she got rid of all of her meds after her reading because she felt so good. I politely told her to go back to her psychiatrist and refused to see her as a client ever again.

5. The Critic:This is the client who loves to come in and say "you were right about everything except this one thing..". They want to hammer that point home, so they'll bring it up again and again. In fact, every time they see you, they only want to talk about "that one thing that didn't workout". They always have a bizarre indignant tone. I never understand what their point is. Do they want to show me that I'm fallible? I don't claim to be God. My theory is that these people are very unhappy and want to make sure someone else feels just as crappy as they do. I can only imagine how they treat their coworkers or loved ones. After awhile, I get sick of their passive aggressive nature and just get rid of these clients. (On a side note, I am thrilled if my batting average is only one thing wrong! Woot!)

As a reader, I am quite aware of my own shortcomings. I can't work with every client. I cannot fix every issue. I am humble enough to admit that.

I am also wise enough to know that most of my clients are real, wonderful and open people. Therefore, I don't let a few bummers create an atmosphere where I have a cynical attitude or unrealistic expectations of my clients. If you are a reader, it is important for you to keep an open mind about your clients - even if they don't have the same attitude about you.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

Sound On, Not Off!

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 18:33:00 GMT

I'm the first to admit that I despise the sound of my voice on tape. I even cringe when I listen to my answering service (I am not kidding here!) ! No one else seems to mind though. In fact, some of my yoga students have even remarked that my voice is soothing! Go figure....

Although this is something I struggle with personally, I find that making an audio recording of your readings to be valuable for the client. In fact, I even insist some spacey types bring in a recorder and make it a habit to do so every time. This serves a few purposes:

1. The querent will pay more attention to the reading if they are not scrambling to take notes. (I talk VERY fast so this is important!)
2. A forgetful person will appreciate being able to listen to the recording later and it serves to remind them of what you've said.
3. It is easier for the questioner to hear what you REALLY said, not what they THOUGHT you said.

Years ago, I had a particularly cynical woman come in for a reading. She taped it, which I encouraged her to do. Later she called me to say that she had listened to it on the way home and was glad she did. In her mind, the reading was not positive at all - but after listening to the tape, she realized that it was HER interpretation that was negative, not what I said. This is a great example of why taping a reading can be valuable.

So even if you are not a fan of your own voice, be open to providing this service as many clients will appreciate you for it!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

(I don't provide a recording device or tapes in my office as I prefer the client to take that responsibility on for themselves.)

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

When Good Readers Go Bad

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 18:55:00 GMT

Years ago, I had the best reading in my life from a man who was not a professional reader. Although I initially doubted him (never underestimate a triple Scorpio!), it turned out he had amazing abilities that blew me away. But he never directed his talent into a career as he had other aspirations. I have since lost touch with him but always wonder what “might have been” if he continued on this path.

I am sometimes surprised by the people who should be doing tarot but aren’t – but more shocked by the ones who do this as a living and probably shouldn’t. Who am I to judge you may ask? (I even ask myself that!) Well, sometimes I am here, undoing the damage that some of these readers do to people. And I have been witness to many readers who seem to do worse damage to themselves.

Here are some of the pitfalls that many readers need to watch out for:

1. Ego. As the old saying goes, “pride goeth before a fall”. It is
     easy to fall into the trap of thinking you are “powerful” when you
     get some accurate results from your readings. It is even easier to
     begin to think you “know it all”. This is NOT a good place to be
     in because this type of thinking blinds you. I have seen some well
     intentioned readers become so enamored of their own abilities that
     they begin losing sight of the real purpose of a reading – it is
     to EMPOWER the client, never about your authority. If you find
     yourself feeling smug, it is time for an attitude check. Readers
     who become egomaniacs often lose their abilities.

2. Burnout. Doing reading after reading, working all hours of the
     day, 7 days a week, available to everyone’s beck and call won’t
     make you a popular reader. It will make you sick and tired.
     Working in this manner does not serve your clients – it makes you
     a slave to them. Eventually, resentment sets in and then you are
     no good for anyone. Set boundaries. Do other things in addition to
     tarot. Most importantly, make time for YOU. When you take care of
     yourself first, you are always a more grounded conduit.

3. Stereotyping. Some readers really get into the whole “show” aspect
     – which is similar to ego. However, this takes it a step further
     as the reader will go with every awful stereotype – crazy “witchy”
     costumes, turbans and affectations ala Gloria Swanson in “Sunset
     Boulevard”. Although this is harmless, no one will take you
     seriously and this runs the risk of making tarot a joke. If you
     are doing a Ren-fair, go for it – but if you want to be seen as a
     professional, drop the act. (If you are a full on goth though and
     love the fashion aspect, then rock on!)

4. Negative Nancys. There are some readers who thrive on telling
     people bad stuff. In fact, they seem to only focus on negative.
     Why? It can feel powerful to make someone frightened is my only
     guess. This does not help a client. I have found that these types
     of readers tend to live negative lives themselves and have a
     crummy attitude. Which leads to the next and most important issue:

5. Projecting. If your life is not in order, it is easy to put your
     own crappy spin on other people’s readings. The first thing every
     reader should do is fix their OWN lives. If you are not living a
     life that is healthy, positive and balanced, you have no business
     doing this work. You are a living example and should be a beacon
     of integrity, love and divine spirit! Manifest the best for you
     and you will be in a position to help your clients to create lives
     that are full of abundance and joy!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

Follow Me, I'll Follow You....

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 23:55:00 GMT

Still wanting insights on reading tarot? Are you a member of Twitter yet?

If so, follow me and then watch ever Friday for my Tarot Tips! Each week, I'll post a few tidbits, advising on everything from the cards themselves to how to be a more authentic tarot reader! This is an opportunity to learn from my 25+ years of reading experience!

So - what are you waiting for? Sign up today and tweet on!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

www.twitter.com/thetarotlady

PS Look for #tarottips in the search feature of Twitter to find older tweets!

7 Ways To Bust Your Tarot Rut

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 17:20:00 GMT

Cards getting stale? Are your readings lacking "oomph"? Do you feel as if you are giving the same old readings, day after day? You may be in a "tarot rut"!

It happens from time to time, especially for long time readers. So how does one transform this stagnant energy and put life back into their readings? Here's a few tips sure to help you get your groove back:

1. CHANGE DECKS - someone once said to me that "familiarity breeds contempt" and I couldn't agree more. Get yourself a brand new deck. Perhaps one that you have never worked with. See if that doesn't inspire your dormant intuitive powers!

2. READ A NEW TAROT BOOK - believe it or not, there are GREAT ones coming out on the market all the time. For example, check out the new one by Rachel Pollack, "Tarot Wisdom" or Mary Greer's "21 Ways To Read A Tarot Card". This is a fantastic way to glean new insights.

3. LISTEN TO A TAROT PODCAST - there are some mighty good ones out there. Listen in to Tarot Talk, Thelemic Waves or the Tarot Connection for some great chats with tarot experts! If you search around on the web, there are many others as well!

4. GET A READING - sometimes just getting a reading from another reader can help you to get clear. And you can always learn from others - even if you don't like the reading!

5. JOIN TWITTER - and connect with other tarot readers and astrologers! I have found this community to be really helpful and supportive. While you're there, participate in the #amtarot and #pmtarot with me. It's a fun way to hone your skills! (Don't forget to follow me while you're at it!)

6. READ TAROT BLOGS -I have been enjoying tuning into other blogs. Once again, too many to name but a few of my faves are: Mary Greer's Tarot Blog, Tarot By Arwen, MaTarotWellness, and Rose of Avalon.

7. PUT IT AWAY - And if all else fails, take a break for a while. Go on a 'tarot vacation'. Come back to it in a few days and you may have the fresh attitude you need to see clearly!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

Best Tarot Decks For Beginning Readers

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Fri, 22 May 2009 02:07:00 GMT

Picking a deck is really matter of personal choice and for newbie readers, it can be overwhelming to look through the massive selection available. Where to start? The list below is comprised of a few decks I feel are great for beginner (or any for that matter) readers. (You can view images of any of these decks at: http://www.aeclectic.net/tarot/)

1. Rider Waite - This is THE standard deck. Many other decks, including the ones listed below, base their images on the artwork of the RW deck.I usually recommend that all my students start out with this one. The pictures clearly illustrate the meanings. Many tarot books feature the Rider Waite deck, so it is usually easy to find a good companion book.

2. Morgan Greer - Stunning and vivid visuals with stark colors. Images are based on the Rider Waite deck so it is a good deck to start with or to move on to.

3. Robin Wood - Beautiful artwork with a Pagan feel.

4. Connolly Deck - I find this deck gorgeous, easy to read and very user friendly. Note that the Death card is renamed "Transition" and the Devil is renamed as "Materialism". I find that this is beneficial when reading for people who are fearful of tarot decks.

5. Hanson Roberts - A smaller deck that fits nicely in the palm of your hand. Standard RW images but very whimsical.

Any of these decks will work well for a beginner or make a nice addition to any tarot afficiando's collection!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

Oh, My Fickle Heart!

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Tue, 12 May 2009 00:16:00 GMT

I'll admit it willingly. I am an absolute commitment-phobe. In my mind, I don't make a very good wife (although my husband would beg to differ) and I can't stand the feeling of "obligation". The very word sends shudders down my spine! I like to keep one foot out the door and I prefer to feel as if I always have an option (an option to what I don't know).

I am even like this with my tarot cards. For different reasons. I'll use a deck for a long period only to put it in a dark corner if I get sick of it. I may pull it out again, but usually once I am done, I am really done. Rarely do I like looking at the same thing for years and years. I'll even give the deck away if I feel it is low energy (people are anxious to get a well used deck for some reason - but for me, once it has lost it's juice it never works the same). I've even been known to flippantly toss a deck if I perceive someone else is using the same deck to copy me in some fashion (imitation is never flattering to me).

But some times there is a very good reason to switch decks up. Here's why: often times we get so familiar with our decks that the images become stale. We become complacent in our readings and start to use rote meanings rather than inspired intuitive insights.

Years ago, when I used to teach tarot reading, we would start out with the Rider Waite deck (I always recommend it for beginners). After the students developed confidence in reading with this deck, I would pull out another deck without warning. Often, this left the students stuttering and scared. But then, when they relaxed, something wonderful happened: new meanings would emerge and their readings would get new life!

So if you are rather fond of your deck, I encourage you to shake things up a bit. Try a deck that is completely unfamiliar to you. Maybe even one that is not appealing to your senses. Pull out a deck that you haven't worked with in years. Use someone else's cards. See what you can do to nudge yourself in a new direction. Freshen up your readings in this manner from time to time and you may just stay commited to learning tarot thoroughly!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

Fit To Read

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Wed, 06 May 2009 19:38:00 GMT

This winter was a challenge for me in many ways. Although many things in my life were plugging along as usual, I kind of slipped off the wagon. The health wagon that is.

When I stepped on the scale, I realized that my nightly glass of wine, gobs of Milky Way Dark Miniature Bars and lax exercise schedule had finally caught up with me. I gained the dreaded "winter 10". You'd never guess it as I am one of those people that gains evenly so I can hide it quite well. (In fact I can even hide it from myself!) I don't put on weight often as I am a diligent exerciser in addition to my yoga schedule (even with all the yoga I do, I need the extra exercise to keep fit and strong - plus to allow me to eat the way I want, which is rather indulgent as I am quite the foodie!).

As a yoga teacher (my other profession), this is unacceptable. As a tarot reader, this is a sign. An indicator that I have become lazy about my own boundaries and well being.

This is actually quite common amongst other professional readers. Often I discover that many of my peers struggle with addiction, depression and health related issues. One of my closest friends and colleagues, a brilliant astrologer and numerologist, died before the ripe old age of 50 due to a massive heart attack. He was very obese and never took care of himself. Other colleagues I know have had major life threatening illnesses or severe mental problems. Why does this happen? Well, for one, we spend an awful lot of time listening to other people's problems. And that tends to make us take the focus off of ourselves. Which is NOT healthy. Weak boundaries also cause us to "absorb" energy - and if one does not have a proper release, this can bring a whole host of problems. And late night schedules (or working other jobs in addition to reading cards) make it difficult to stick to a regime.

In order to serve others fully, we need to make sure we are making ourselves a priority. If you intend on reading for others, I urge you to put your mental and physical health FIRST. Daily mediation and exercise are great ways to release tension, let go of your work and bring balance back into your life. If you can do this, you'll find you are not only healthier, but also setting a good example for your clients. After all, they are coming to see you because you are in a good place, right?

So, I'm back onto my regular weight training and cardio, in addition to the daily yoga and meditation (which I never slack on). I've banished the Milky Way Darks to a very dark place so that they cannot tempt me any longer. And the nightly glass of wine - although I love you, it is adios until I see my waistline go back to where it should be.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

To Thine Own Self Be True

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 20:56:00 GMT

So the other day I had a client who came in for a reading. This lady wanted to discuss a situation where she did something that hurt a lot of people, including herself. She didn't make her decision because she was a bad person with moral issues. In fact, she's perfectly kind and normal.

She went to another reader who encouraged her to have an affair.

Now, I know sometimes things are not cut and dried and life can throw situations in your way that may cause to you make decisions that may not be in your best interest. Life can be messy and relationships are not always clear and easy. ( Lord knows I have had to learn my own lessons in this department along the way!) And sometimes affairs, loss, and other life dramas are what we need to get us to be more aware.

My issue with this situation had nothing to do with judging the client or her decision. I don't judge people who walk in my door.

It was the reader that really angered me because this reader is known for having the most messed up life and for making poor decisions in her own personal life. In other words, she was projecting her own dicey moral code on this woman. Her "advice" was tainted at best and lacked the integrity needed to help the client handle this situation in a manner that may have been more positive.

As a professional reader, I believe it is imperative that your life be in a good place before you start giving others "spiritual" advice. If you do not have your life in order or are living in an unethical manner, then how can you steer others without being a hypocrite?

After all, would you go to a personal trainer who was overweight and ate junk food? Would you visit a dentist who had really nasty teeth? I doubt it. Practice what you preach.

Meditate on what you need to work on and make an effort to live your life as ethically as possible. It is your duty to be beacon of truth, integrity and compassion. If you are truly to help others on their spiritual journey, make sure that YOU are someone that you can respect yourself.

Blessings!
Theresa

(On a side note, I won't get a reading from someone if I suspect they don't have their shit together. If you believe a reader is a hot mess, AVOID getting readings from them or just don't take it seriously. That's my best advice!)

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

First Communion

tarotlady@wi.rr.com (The Tarot Lady) — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 22:30:00 GMT

I’ve been reading an excellent new tarot book, “Best Tarot Practices” by Marcia Masino. If you haven’t had a chance to pick it up, I recommend that you do. Whether you are new to tarot or familiar with it, the exercises and interpretations will help to expand your horizons.

What really caught my attention was the chapter regarding the difficulty tarot readers have making friends. In my 17+ years as a reader, I have found this to be all too true. The loneliness factor is one of the hardest parts of my job. I have been in a self imposed exile and have had to learn the hard way about keeping strict boundaries. If I have ever appeared to be antisocial, it isn’t because I want to be this way.

As a Gemini and an all around friendly person, I love people and adore meeting like minded folk. But often it has been my experience that some people have agendas due to my career. I have had people try to befriend me because they were enamored with what I do and wanted to pick my brain to learn how to read cards. I have been burned by some who thought I was a convenient dumping ground and either used me as a quasi therapist or turned on me when I didn’t respond to their neediness. There were a few that actually started out with sincerity only to begin the familiar “could you toss a couple of cards for me” or “give me your vibes on this situation”. And then there were one or two who wanted to be “more psychic than the psychic” and that situation isn’t even worth going into here.

Finding friendships around my own peers and colleagues has been no better as the “competition” factor eventually creeps in. Rather than supporting, the relationship becomes about besting. This is one of the main reasons you’ll never see me doing public appearances. I don’t need this energy as I always believe that there is enough work to go around and everyone has their niche.

But recently, something has been changing. I have been making connections with peers through social media (how geeky is that?) and this time it feels different. I have found a community that is still emerging – one that is filled with like minded but very different souls. There are no games. No agendas. Simply tarot lovers that want to play around with the cards, learn from each other and offer support. For the first time in years, I feel like crawling out of my hermit-like existence and actually engaging.

I am realizing the power of community. When it is done with the right intention, it can be enlightening and uplifting. I’ve been feeling a new spring in my step and am looking at my cards with new eyes again. I am finally connecting with people who are not interested in using me, dumping on me or displaying me like some parlor trick – I am actually feeling an ability to be myself, unshielded, undiluted, uncensored. To be able to reach out in this manner and relate…….it’s almost overwhelming to me. It feels like a tarot rebirth to me. I’m excited to see how this continues to develop.

Blessings!

Theresa