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A Town That’s Right For Me

Wednesday, July 21st, 2010

One of the hardest things about working in the tarot field is the isolation that some of us feel.  Often times we find ourselves without peers – especially those who may live in a rural area.  It’s not easy to connect but thanks to the advent of the internet and social media in particular, the game has begun to change.  Many of my fellow tarot readers have been delighted to find each other through this medium – and it has made our world a little more inclusive and a lot less lonely.

Recently, a new site launched that has stepped it up a notch and created a true community for us tarot lovers.  It’s called “Tarot Town” and is the brainchild of Marcus Katz and Tali Goodwin of Tarot Professionals .  Tarot Town is fun but don’t be fooled by the light tone – there is some SERIOUS tarot stuff going on here – classes, forums, discussions, groups and more!  Not only can you connect and make friends here – you can improve your skills, ask questions, learn about events and more.  If there was ever a Tarot Nirvana for us tarot freaks, I think I have found it here!

Of course, I had to ask Marcus and Tali about the creation and inspiration behind Tarot Town and this is what they had to say to me:

We were inspired to create Tarot Town by listening to the members of Tarot Professionals. We had been asked to provide a service to allow our members to network and socialise outside of the focused studies of Tarot such as Gated Spreads, the Diploma Course, Tarot Houses and other projects. When we looked at our existing forum we realised that it did not fulfil this purpose, although it is where we will continue to hold our Tarot course discussions.

We then considered our vision to promote high levels of Tarot education, and realised if we could find a way of providing such a social network, we would serve our own vision by opening it to the wider community. We also recognised that as our members had such a great deal of Tarot knowledge and experience we could connect them to those looking for help in their studies in an open and friendly fashion.

This resulted in us looking at many ways of accomplishing this aim – we reviewed existing sites, new technologies, voice/video systems, on-line teaching systems, and much more. We decided on a package of the “best of the best” even though this required a significant technical and financial investment. The site TAROT-TOWN was born from this research and our desire not to re-create the wheel.

With regard to what can we offer, there’s a line in Keat’s Hyperion which asks of the Titans, “What benefit canst thou, or all thy tribe, to the great world?” We asked ourselves the same question – as Living Oracles, what is it we bring to the world? In Tarot we remind ourselves that the Story is bigger than the individual images that arise in front of us – whether it be life or cardboard. In every divination, we are divined. We hope that Tarot Town will lead to more people coming to that experience of Tarot sooner, and deeper, through an accessible introduction. We are also shaking off the cobwebs – the Tarosophy book is all about mythbusting, and promoting brand new ideas, and Tarot Town is a reflection of that ethos, research and experience.

We’ve primarily aimed to make the Town vibrant, fun and free. There’s an optional Citizen rate of $1/month which ensures we can start to make the Town viable in the long-term and at the same time not exclude anyone on the basis of cost. Participants get access to great teaching experiences, video lessons, a one-stop window on selected Blogs and news, and most importantly peer guidance in a supportive environment. Citizens get special courses and privileges.

We are delighted that Rachel Pollack (age 13!) and many of our other Hon. Members of Tarot Professionals have joined to assist in connecting and sharing their wisdom. Our Deck Study groups are likely to have the deck designers and artists themselves in residence – such as Emily Carding in the Transparent Tarot Study Group.

There’s a readers exchange which has the unique feature of double-blind requests (you offer a reading to someone, but they don’t get informed of the request unless they offer a reading to you also) and peer-review feedback system – the Tarosophy STARS rating. We are also privileged to feature Beyond Worlds Radio Show as the Town’s official Radio Station!

Most important to our hearts is that we have provided a space for Tarot Townsfolk and Citizens to make their own home. The future of Tarot Town is in the hands of its inhabitants – it is an agile environment which will respond to the requirements of its citizens in an organic manner:

There once was an architect who did not build roads, or paths, or paving. He did not even include them in his plans and drawings. He laid grass down between the buildings which were open for all to walk.  Then as time went on, he watched where the grass was thinnest, and for where the beautiful curves and shortcuts, straight lines, dells and grooves that the passage of many people created. This was where he then created his paths – where feet naturally walked.

We have exciting plans already in pre-production for Tarot Town. We will be integrating our existing WIZIQ Learning Environment from Tarot Professionals into the Town Hekademia very soon for online courses in the Town. We are already well advanced in a 3d-Avatar environment for Tarot Conferences, Rituals, Discussions and Socialising! If you watch our promo video, you’ll see a sneak preview of the 3D world which will be ready by 2011.

Marcus Katz is the author of Tarosophy: Tarot to Engage Life, Not Escape It (pub. Salamander & Sons, August 2010) and the founder of Tarot Professionals. He is an MBA graduate, M.A. holder (Western Esotericism, University of Exeter) and currently 3-years into a 6-year PhD Thesis on the Teachings of Occult groups in the Western Esoteric Tradition. He is a therapist and trainer.

Tali Goodwin is the Marketing Director of Tarot Professionals and a member of the Chartered Institute of Marketing. Her career has also involved healthcare and occupational therapy. She has also practised Reiki healing.

No matter if you are a tarot professional, a newbie, or just curious, I’d invite you to stop by and take a look around.  You can find me as what else?  The Tarot Lady.  Hope to meet you there!

Blessings!

Theresa

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The Care And Feeding Of Tarot Readers

Friday, June 18th, 2010

If you’re thinking about becoming a professional tarot reader, I’d like to let you in on a little secret: tarot reading is hard, taxing work. You may wonder how this could be, as it appears like the reader is just sitting around tossing a few cards on a table and chatting with people.  Well, on the outside it may look like “having a good time” hanging with clients, but truth is, this career demands a lot from those who intend to walk the walk.  Many fellow readers tell me how drained  and burnt out they can feel at times.  Over the course of twenty years as a professional tarot reader, I too have experienced this myself and have had to develop tools to help me remain grounded and balanced.

Self awareness is the first key.  Over the years,  I’ve learned to become more sensitive to the warning signs when my energy is unbalanced:

  • Feeling depleted/ lethargic/ drained
  • Depression
  • Addictive behavior (for me excessive eating of sweets)
  • Putting on excessive weight
  • Less psychic sensitivity
  • Irritability/ impatience

When you are doing any sort of spiritual work, you collect negative energy from the people that seek your services.  Understand this: it’s not deliberate on the part of the client.  A tarot reader has to be open to the experience – and often times the querent may be coming with a lot of emotional baggage or heavy issues, which can be absorbed by the reader.  Once the reading is over and the client leaves, this energy remains with you.  And over time, this can build up, layer by layer and begin to affect the quality of your readings – or in extreme circumstances, your health.  You may not notice it right away but eventually if this negativity is not released, it will weigh you down and undermine your ability to remain a clear channel for your clients.

For me, this happens less these days as I make my self-care and spiritual health a priority.  I have found that it is vital to keep your psychic tools sharp, clean and maintained if you want to continue on this path without jeopardizing your sanity or health.  It all starts with boundaries.  I maintain the strictest of boundaries and put limits on a client’s access to me.  My guidelines, for example,  are:

  • All appointments must be scheduled in advance.  No last minute appointments
  • I do not answer “quick questions” over the phone
  • A 3 – 6 month wait between appointments (sometimes longer for some clients)
  • If a client sounds extremely distressed, I may make them wait until they are more calm and focused
  • No-shows get banned

You’ll have to choose what boundaries are comfortable for you.  Some readers are a bit more lax and it doesn’t seem to affect them at all.  For myself, I have found that I function better with structure and this allows my readings to remain objective.

In addition to establishing some ground rules with your clients, it is also important that you create time and space for self care.  Not only eating well and exercising, but also tending to your spiritual life.  There are a few things I do to keep my chakras balanced, energy stable and psychic channels clear:

  • Meditation - spending time with your inner self connects you to the guidance within and allows you to quiet the mind.  Meditation helps to work out your own issues and allows you to become friends with your SELF.  This leads to greater compassion, and that benefits YOU and your clients.
  • Exercise – negative energy can get stored in the body.  Taking time every day to do some sort of physical exercise (I prefer yoga) will insure you are not holding on to difficult emotions or bad energy, which could lead to illness or a feeling of being drained.
  • Pace yourself – I keep a schedule and only read tarot 4 days a week and I limit the number of  clients I see.  Avoid over doing it as that is the surest way to burn out.
  • Bodywork – Massage is a wonderful way to release trapped energy and restore the mind, body and spirit.
  • Eat well – it’s no secret that I love to eat.  Good nutrition paves the way for a healthy body and mind.  However, when I am absorbing too much energy from my clients, I’ll go on mad candy binges!  I try to limit my sweets but more importantly – if I am choosing to eat poorly, I look at my work and see what needs tweaking.  Perhaps a day off or an extra yoga practice could fend off the poor eating habits.
  • Salt baths – at times, my boundaries may be crossed by some really negative client and I find myself completely drained.  A salt bath will cleanse the aura and restore my sixth sense.  It’s very simple to do – fill a tub with warm water and about a cup (or more) of sea salt. Soak for a good 20 minutes.  Air dry.  This works wonders and I swear by it!
  • Candles – I’m a huge fan of candles for cleansing my tarot room and  charging myself and my cards.  I use the Tarot Tools candles by Coventry Creations, which were made especially for tarot readers!  The Energy Boost and Psychic Cleansing candles are a MUST in any tarot reader’s arsenal!

The wise tarot readers will make sure that they keep themselves in tip top shape, from head to toe to soul.  It makes all the difference  not just in the quality of the readings but in the quality of the reader’s LIFE.

Blessings!

Theresa

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How do you keep yourself sane and balanced? I’d love to hear your suggestions!  Post them in the comments section below!

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Talkin’ Tarot With Suzi (aka Starcana)

Thursday, June 3rd, 2010
Talkin’ Tarot With is a monthly feature designed to introduce my readers to different tarot readers from our wonderfully diverse community!  Each month, I’ll be asking various tarot readers 3 questions about their tarot philosophy and style, plus pointing you to their websites and blogs so that you can learn more about them!
I have to admit, my next guest was rather reluctant and I had to twist her arm.  She’s a bit shy about stepping into the spotlight so this required a lot of coaxing on my part.  I’m so happy and honored that she has agreed to do my little interview!  So, without further ado, I’d like to introduce you to Suzi Dronek, also known as Starcana!  Check out her profile and answers below:

I met Suzi through Twitter – in fact, she was one the first people to really connect with me in an authentic and friendly way.  I was drawn to her intelligent astrology and tarot posts as well as her humble, kind personality.  Over time we developed a friendship outside of Twitter and even collaborated on a blog and forum together.  It is always amazing to me that Suzi has such a large base of knowledge and she is always willing to share it without expecting anything in return. I’ve learned a lot from her prolific blogging and tweeting – and am still expanding my knowledge through her insights.  And get this – Suzi is also an incredibly talented graphic designer.  I’ve hired her to design a few things (including the banner above) and have been very pleased with her professionalism and artistic talent.  I feel very grateful to have her in my life and hope to continue to learn, collaborate and laugh together!

Suzi has over 20 years of practice in spiritual astrology, mystic tarot, and the intuitive arts. Her passion is to help others to help themselves, thru self-awareness and potential. She’s a contributor for ‘AstroCreeps and TarotFreaks‘ with graphics and ‘Tarot Affirmations‘. She also posts a monthly Astroscope, Tarotscope, and more, which can all be found on her website www.starcana.com.  You can also connect with Suzi on Twitter (her handle is Starcana).

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1. What is your philosophy about tarot reading?

Tarot is a splendid strategy that we use to reflect the power of our spirit. Each of us are dealt a hand in life. To be our very best, we must learn how to play our cards well. If we listen and pay close attention, the cards will teach us ‘what to play’ and ‘what to hold’. This intuitive tool stirs our imagination, daring us to think outside the box and to stray upon unfamiliar roads. Tarot will speak to us like a close friend, mysteriously ‘knowing’ what we are experiencing, while brilliantly advising us to be aware, and to choose our next step wisely. It’s a secret language, and through careful translation, we receive insightful messages to steer us onto a safer route in our relationships, profession, and inner self. Tarot is a powerful communicator that invites us to have a heart-to-heart conversation with our soul. As we thirst for more knowledge and experience enlightenment, interpretations begin to alter and branch out, allowing our spirit to do the same. Once we know its infinite depth and true potential, we can begin to understand why its messages will never be set in stone.


2. How do you feel a client might get the most out of a reading with you?

Clients want a reading, but they also want to be able to confess their soul to a confidant or best friend. They want to be themselves, without feeling judged. What good is the magic of an outstanding reading, if they are embarrassed to talk about their feelings, uncomfortable to ask the real questions, and fearful to participate in the reading? If a burden isn’t released and brought to light, their dilemma will continue to contaminate their journey and potential. When compassion is shared with a warm, fun, and friendly conversation, I hope to create a memorable welcome mat, that allows them a cool place to return. Truth and guidance are the meat and potatoes of a reading. The client will quietly listen and evaluate the reader’s sincerity and performance to determine if there is a genuine connection. I’m a problem-solver, and the only way for an issue to be truly addressed, is to approach it honestly while facing the cold hard facts. As a professional and a spiritual individual, my objective is to help others to help themselves, by locating weaknesses while generating realistic solutions. It is important to build a strong foundation of trust with expertise and integrity, so that a client not only wants to listen, but also has a desire to learn and grow.

3. What is your best piece of advice for an aspiring tarot reader?

Tarot is a tool for both intuition and awareness. It should always be used to empower and guide for a higher purpose. Honor and respect must be present in your readings, the way you treat your clients, and to yourself. Reading is an art which is based on interpretation. Everyone will always have an opinion, which is a matter of perspective only. Never let judgments get in the way of your own path. The best artists are those who stay true to themselves and their unique style. Originality will always stand out from the crowd, so when the books aren’t working anymore, trust your own intuitive technique. Research other readers and make notes as to what you like, and what you don’t like, in regards to how you would like to represent yourself and your readings. Last, to avoid those unspoken fears, learn and follow the law in your state for performing readings, always provide the client with free will, offer crisis numbers, and create your own terms of what you do, and what you will not do.

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A big thank you and hug to Suzi for taking the time to answer my questions and allowing me to put the spotlight on her!  My next mission in life is to get her to come on my Blog Talk Radio Show – watch for her soon – July 11th!

Blessings!

Theresa

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Top Ten Tarot Blogs

Saturday, May 15th, 2010

I’m always on the hunt for new ways of looking at the tarot.  You’ll always find a tarot book on my reading table but I have discovered that some of the best tarot writing actually exists on the web.  There are some fantastic blogs that I visit on a regular basis because they never fail to enlighten me and expand my own abilities.

Here are my top ten recommended tarot blogs:

1.  Mary Greer’s Blog – no list would be complete without Mary’s blog.  This brilliant tarot scholar engages her readers with a wide array of subjects from tarot history to different spreads to tarot references in pop culture.  It is obvious that Mary is constantly learning and we are lucky that she is sharing her knowledge with us!

2.  Tarot Eon – this smart blog is written by Douglas Gibb and I can honestly say that his writing has changed my view on tarot more than any other writer out there.  He is deep, philosophical and playful.  Whenever my tarot brain gets too lazy, all I need to do is hop over to his site and in no time, I am thinking deeper than I have ever before.

3. Tarot Elements – I’ve been consistently impressed by Catherine Chapman’s stellar blog. Excellent tarot writing and delightful guest bloggers (I even got the honor of writing a post here!) round out this blog wonderfully.  There is a cornucopia of knowledge here and I’m always discovering new things!

4.  Tarot Pathways – This is a blog at Llewellyn, new age publishers, written by tarot expert Barbara Moore.  Witty writing, deep insights and so many different ways of working with tarot – it seems as if Barbara is an endless well of ideas and concepts!  One of the things I really enjoy about her writing is her conversational tone – I feel as if I am sneaking a peek at someone’s tarot diary and getting the “real dirt” on what tarot is all about!

5.  Bonnie Cehovet – Bonnie is a prolific writer and deck reviewer.  She takes great care to provide detailed reviews of tarot decks and books and this is the place I go to before I buy a deck.  I know I’ll always get an honest and thorough opinion without any hidden agendas.  Before you plunk down your hard earned dollars on your next deck, be sure to look here!

6.  Corrine Kenner’s Shuffle – This popular blog has it all – deck and book reviews, spreads, and get this – American Idol predictions!  I LOVE this!  Corrine is also a well known tarot author and has written one of my all time favorite tarot books:  Tarot Journaling.  Make sure you stop by here and see what she’s up to.  It’s always entertaining!

7.  Supertarot - If you want to learn  more about the Golden Dawn system as well as get more familiar with the Thoth Deck, then Paul Hughes Barlow is your man and this is the site you want to visit.  I am really new to the concepts he presents here and one thing I can tell you – Paul explains these methods in such a clear and concise manner that even my stubborn brain can ‘get it’.

8.  Melissa Tarot – you know what I really like about this blog?  Melissa has a great sense of humor and an excellent way with words.  She explores cards in depth and melds philosophy with wit for a fun yet serious look at the tarot.  I’m looking forward to watching this blog continue to grow.  Good stuff so far….

9.  Musings On Tarot – Arwen Lynch has one of the freshest tarot voices on the web.  She makes me laugh out loud some times, she makes me think and she makes me hungry.  What you ask?  Well, she sometimes writes about tarot and food!  I love her recipes and for me, this is the Holy Grail because there is nothing I love more than food – imagine reading about a tarot card and getting a recipe for guacamole! Fun!  Don’t let that make you assume the blog is silly – there is some super intense tarot interpretations too!

10.  Donnaleigh – This is a fun page with a potpourri of information and a tongue in cheek attitude at times.  Donnaleigh’s colorful blog is never boring! She writes about her own experiences with tarot and she’s never afraid to take it to places I would never dream of!  And if you’re too lazy to read (I know plenty of people who claim to be), she also includes an audio file “Tarot Minute”.  Listen in and learn!

While this list is big, it is by no means complete.  Be sure to check out these other blogs: Auracana, Big Tarot, Tarot Dame, 78 Notes To Self, Cat ‘N Owl and up and coming awesome tarot blogger Mike Hernandez

I also hope you check out the other blog I contribute to with my good pals Astrogrrl, Starcana and TaurusRising: Astrocreeps and Tarot Freaks.

Keep learning and keep reading!

Blessings!

Theresa

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Talkin’ Tarot With Donnaleigh

Tuesday, May 11th, 2010

I’m really excited to introduce a brand new feature on my blog “Talkin’ Tarot With…”. My goal here is to feature different tarot readers so that you can get a feel for the diversity of the tarot community!  Each month, I’ll be asking various tarot readers 3 questions about their tarot philosophy and style, plus pointing you to their websites and blogs so that you can learn more about them!  I hope you’ll find this to be fun and interesting!

I’m honored to bring you my very first guest – the fabulously talented and supremely sweet Donnaleigh!  Check out her profile and answers below:

I first learned about Donnaleigh through her Blogtalk Radio show, Beyond Worlds – a show that features various tarot readers, mediums, healers, astrologers and more.  I was really impressed by the quality of the show as well as Donnaleigh’s vast knowledge and warmth.  I had the great privilege of being a guest on Beyond Worlds a while ago and it was so much fun!  Since then, I’ve been an avid fan and it’s amazing how much I learn from that show!

Donnaleigh has a strong focus on tarot education. She loves teaching people not only how to read tarot but how to use it to better their lives.  Beyond Worlds has become a primary presence in the tarot community for fun and learning, and has gathered a worldwide following. She is now paired with Storm Cestavani (Psychic Friends Live), the #1 most-downloaded metaphysical show on BTR – the two share shows and have created a landing spot for practitioners who want to connect with a community, as well as  for the general public who seek to learn more about the psychic arts and spirituality through metaphysics.  (I’ll be working on getting an interview with Storm here soon….so watch for it!)

You can learn more about Donnaleigh at http://www.donnaleigh.net.

Her weekend radio shows are at Tarot Tribe (available both live and in archives), and she co-hosts every Friday on Storm Cestavani’s daily podcast show, Psychic Friends Live.

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1.  What is your philosophy about tarot reading?

The primary draw I have to continue tarot readings and what fires my passion so deeply is the powerful impact tarot has on people’s lives and their ability to control and change their future for the better. Through the cards — which somehow don’t seem come up randomly but rather show themselves very precisely and meaningfully — people can tap into the core of what is happening in their life, the patterns they have established, their roadblocks (to become aware and break through them), and receive advice on how to put their best foot forward for the highest outcome. Tarot seems to choose the cards randomly better than I could choose them on purpose. When people sink into their meanings with me, we develop a clear outline to tidy up their life situation, and we can create priorities, goals, and shifts for ongoing betterment.


2.  How do you feel a client might get the most out of a reading with you?

I like to start by telling a client what the cards are saying without the client giving me too much information, to be sure we have a strong connection with what is about to happen in the reading. If they tell me too much, I worry they won’t trust the process. This “defining of their situation” is just a precursor to the most important part of the reading: sinking into outlining and manifesting their best future by recognizing potential choices and outcomes. This bonding process with their past and current situation helps them gain trust in the reading and connect with me as a reader. But it is the latter part of a reading that truly has the most power to change lives.

Once the initial  trust happens, I feel that when a client then becomes participatory in their reading, especially if they see situations in the cards’ symbolism that I may bypass, the process amplifies and becomes “theirs.”

It is important to me that clients recognize the power of their own free will as well. Cards or readings do not dictate a certain infallible outcome or fate, but define potential goals and help us recognize yet-to-be manifested futures. The future is coming, and we are creating it now. When I feel people grasp their own power, start acting proactively, live deliberately, and have better clarity, I then see that they live on purpose. It is then that I feel they have received the most out of a tarot reading because they have taken hold of their own reins and begin to own their personal power by creating their own shifts rather than passively waiting for something to come to them.

3.  What is your best piece of advice for an aspiring tarot reader?

a) Feel the passion as you learn, and don’t stress about “being wrong.” Practice on friends or with online with groups to gain confidence and put more meanings of each card in your back pocket, but feel the fire. Tarot can be a very magical and powerful process of self-growth, and when you ride the wave with passion, it becomes its own journey of joy –not just a way of getting you to another situation of joy — but a joyful process in itself.

b) I also suggest that people keep their readings for the highest good. Be sure that the questions you are answering deliver the querent to a sense of confidence and empowerment rather than a place of being a victim or feeling helpless. It’s perfectly okay to gently say no to answering a question if you worry the answer might be more than you could handle giving or your client could handle taking (i.e., health questions). Refer to the proper professionals when necessary (psychologist, doctor, financial advisor).

c) Trust what the cards say. Be honest, and trust what you see/feel/hear/sense. Your first impulse is usually the most powerful and honest piece of information. Listen to the additional pieces that come in –  even if they seem unrelated to the original meanings of the cards.

d) Leave opinions and judgments out of a reading. The tarot reading should be a safe and neutral place for querents to say what is on their mind without any bias, judgment, or social pressure.

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A big thank you to Donnaleigh for her time and words of wisdom!
I’ll be joining Donnaleigh and Storm THIS Friday May 14th – check it out at Psychic Friends Live!  I can’t wait!
Blessings!
Theresa

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The Comfort Zone – Setting Up A Space For Tarot Reading

Sunday, February 7th, 2010

Whether you read tarot for yourself or others, the environment can make all the difference in the quality of the reading. A calm, soothing atmosphere allows for an open, receptive mind, which is favorable for a good tarot reading.  It doesn’t matter if you actually see clients in person or only do phone readings – the same principle applies. 

The Office

I’m fortunate that I am able to have an office where my clients can visit me directly.  I put my personal stamp on my place and it is comfortable for me.  There is almost no place I’d rather be than my office (well, except maybe the kitchen!).  If you decide to set up a space in your home or rent a space, here are a few tips to keep in mind:

1. Make it relaxed and welcoming.  Beautiful pictures, a homey decor and plenty of light lend a cozy vibe.  Have your table at a decent ergonomic height so no one has to hunch over it.  Get chairs that are comfortable enough but STURDY (I have had more than one chair destroyed by a bigger client).  A soft couch is a nice touch, especially in a waiting area.  Candles can soften the atmosphere but are not necessary.  Keep your office neat and clean.  Clutter can be distracting – try to keep it to a minimum especially on the surface you intend to read on.  (I’ll admit to being rather cluttery myself but it’s mostly books and I keep it contained well enough.)

2. Keep the temperature comfortable. If your office is too hot or too cold your client will not be able to relax.  You may end up having to pay extra in energy costs but this is worth it in my opinion.  I’d rather pay a few dollars to the energy man to insure my clients are happy.

3. Some tarot readers frown on “tinkly music” but I heartily disagree. I like to have relaxing new age or classical music playing in the background.  Many of my clients come here from work and this immediately soothes their frazzled nerves and helps to set a chilled out tone.

4. Incense is optional.  I keep this to a minimum as many people are allergic or just don’t like the smell. If you really must burn it, consider doing it an hour before work – and keep the window slightly open to get rid of the smoke. Because people can be sensitive to scents, you may want to consider NOT wearing perfume. 

5. Pets can be adorable but also unpredictable.  You may want to keep Rover out of your office to avoid potential issues. I have two cats and one happens to be extremely obnoxious.  I’ll allow them down at times but usually, they get the boot if they become unruly – or if a client is allergic or fearful.  Believe it or not, some of my clients actually REQUEST the cats sit in on the reading! 

6. Avoid the oogie boogie thing as much as possible.  In other words, you may want to keep your images and person rather neutral.  Some people are fearful enough walking into a tarot reading and anything too “spooky” could be a turn off.  In my own office, I have many religious pictures from the 1920′s (a nod to my Catholic roots and my favorite era).  I always get a lot of compliments on them. But I also have a framed antique bisque baby doll that sometimes freaks out sensitive types until I explain to them that I bought it that way! And then there are some who actually prefer the gypsy witch experience and may be disappointed if you appear too “normal”.  I’ve had a few that thought they’d walk in and I’d be wearing a turban….they were quite bummed out that wasn’t the case. 

Phone Readings

1.  Make sure you are in a relaxed place so you can concentrate.  This means the baby is asleep, the dog is out of your hair, hubby isn’t walking in and out and the television is off.  I find I need my environment super quiet if I am doing a reading over the phone.  I want to give all of my attention to the client – distractions destroy my ability to focus.

2. Be sure the client is in an equally relaxed place. I learned this the hard way. I had a few clients who would call me and then spend half the reading yelling at their children or spouse.  I now insist they schedule their appointment when they know they will not be disturbed.  I need the client to concentrate as much as I am because they are not here to shuffle the cards!

Parties and Public Places

You will have little to no control in this arena.  When you do anything at other people’s homes, you are at their mercy.  I’ve done readings in freezing cold basements, sweltering bedrooms, screaming loud taverns, next to blaring speakers at a convention, and in a cockroach ridden mouse infested hellhole.  I’ve learned to be flexible but now set some boundaries as much as possible.

You can do a little “damage control” by asking your client in advance what the area will be like. If you are doing a major public event, insist on a quiet table away from the action.  Ask your hostess to put you in a separate room if possible.  Some tarot readers I know even bring their own tablecloths, crystals, candles and music to insure they are able to set a vibe they like!  As long as you and the querent can find a way to be relaxed, you may find that you can read your tarot anywhere!

Blessings!
Theresa
http://www.thetarotlady.com

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PS That is NOT my office pictured above!  LOL Just a lovely picture.

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The Yamas Of Tarot Reading

Sunday, January 24th, 2010

Most people who know me also know that in addition to reading tarot, I am an avid yogi and have been practicing for well over a decade.  About 6 years ago, I started to teach yoga and meditation so that I could share these gifts with others who are seeking a more enlightened life. 

Many Westerners think of yoga as an “exercise” program and begin taking classes in hopes of achieving the so-called “yoga butt”.  I cringe inwardly at this idea because yoga is so much more than that.  In fact, the physical aspect of yoga is really only a tiny part.  Yoga has a rich history and deep philosophical roots.  For example, there are “8 limbs” of yoga – and each one gives us an idea of how to live more consciously.  When we bring awareness to our thoughts, words, breath, physicality, and actions, we can begin to reach “samadhi” (liberation), the ultimate goal.

The first limb consists of the “Yamas” (translated as “restraints”). These are the ethical principles that guide us on living in the outside world.  When we live a life that respects all and treats others with compassion, we can truly begin to live our dharma and find meaning in our lives. 

A majority of my contact with the outside world comes through my work.  How can I apply the Yamas to tarot reading? 

1. The first Yama – and probably the most important one – is AHIMSA – which means “non-violence” .  I’m not talking about  using the tarot as a physical weapon (I doubt a deck of 78 cards can do much damage on a human body)!  It’s about actively practicing kindness and compassion with those who seek to use my services.   This can be accomplished by treating clients with respect as well as choosing words that are life affirming and positive.  A reader must be as tolerant, sympathetic and considerate as possible. If you have ever gone to a tarot reader that is negative and rude, you know how damaging that kind of vibe can be.  I’ll never forget years ago a girlfriend and I went to see a very unhappy tarot reader who did nothing but project her bitterness on to us.  We walked out of there laughing because nothing she said applied or made sense.  It was obvious that she was down on her own life and wanted us to be as miserable as her.  For a vulnerable client, a reader like this can be very damaging.

2. The second Yama is SATYA, or “truth”.  Honesty should guide every word that comes out of your mouth. In other words, a tarot reader must strive to deliver a truthful reading.  If you only tell the client what they want to hear, you are doing a disservice.  However, that does not mean being harsh with your delivery – once again, Ahimsa must be the cornerstone of every action.  You can deliver a candid tarot reading without being “brutal”.  A heavy hand can be necessary on occasion but a “velvet sledgehammer” is always my preferred tool.  I also believe that you can practice Satya by being honest about your abilities.  Never pretend to be something that you are not. This could be as simple as knowing when you are not the right reader for a specific client.  This is humbling but if you get your ego out of it, you’ll see that this is far better than thinking you can read for any and all who come your way.  It’s not possible.  NO reader can do that.

3.  The third Yama is ASTEYA, translated as “non-stealing”.  This can be best practiced with your fellow tarot readers.  For example, give credit where credit is due. Don’t take the glory for something if you didn’t do the work.  Always acknowledge your teachers and mentors for their assistance.  Avoid actively seeking out a fellow reader’s clientele (there is enough work for everyone!).  This is a bad business practice born out of scarcity mentality.

4. The fourth Yama is BRAHMACHARYA, or “celibacy”.  No, I’m not talking about it from a sexual point of view (however, sleeping with your clients is NOT a smart idea.  I know of one guy who used to do that and it brought him all kinds of trouble!). I’m talking about it from an “energy” viewpoint.  If you are constantly doing tarot readings without conserving some of your energy, you risk burnout – which is no good for you or your clients.  Restraining yourself here is wise and prudent. I adhere to a strict policy of only reading 4 days out of the week and limiting the number of clients I serve.  Maintaining healthy boundaries makes for a better tarot reader – and a better experience for your clients and a healthier business and life experience in general. 

5.  The last Yama is “APARIGRAHA” or “non-grasping”.  You can practice Aparigraha by not “owning” your clients.  They are free to come and go as they please – and to seek a different reader if they should choose to do so for any reason.  A tarot reader should avoid pushy solicitation. There are some unethical readers that take it to an extreme by telling a client that they have a “curse” on them – and then offering to remove it for thousands of dollars!  Some of these con artists will resort to calling the client at home at all hours of the day and night.  This is unconscionable and downright criminal! NO ethical reader should EVER engage in such practices. 

My other favorite way of exercising Aparigraha is by being objective and “letting go of the readings”. I actively work at detaching myself from the outcome – and when my work with a client is done, I also choose to let it go.  In other words, I do not obsess over the reading.  I close my chakras and move on to the next one without hanging on to what was.  I choose to live in the moment. That’s how I roll.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

What ethics or philosophies guide you as a tarot reader?  Leave your thoughts in the comment section below.

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The Prediction Predicament

Saturday, January 9th, 2010

A few years ago, I was sitting in my office when suddenly a flash came before my eyes.  I darted upstairs to breathlessly tell my husband “I just had a vision!  Someone is going to give me monkey socks!”  He looked at me quizzically and then continued on with what he was doing.  Months later, one of my clients sat down for a reading and casually said  ”I have a present for you” and proceeds to hand me a pair of green socks with monkeys on them!  I almost fell out of my chair as I quickly ran upstairs to excitedly show my husband.  “Great… my wife can predict a pair of monkey socks but not the winning lottery numbers.” he replied with a smirk and rolling eyes.

Living with a psychic has taken some of the element (and excitement) of surprise away from him.  I’ve even managed to ruin many a birthday and holiday as  I am such a good gift guesser that he must now resort to elaborate schemes to get me off the scent.  I often will deliver an answer before he even utters the question.  So he no longer gets a thrill when I have a “vision”.  When every day is prediction day, it becomes second nature and rather common. 

Thank goodness my clients never tire of it though or I’d be talking to a blank wall.  Working as a tarot reader has allowed me to utilize my intuition in a way that can aid my clients and help them to navigate life’s ups and downs with a bit more grace.  However, I have noticed that “fortune telling” has fallen out of favor in my line of work.  Many tarot readers and other intuitives shy away from it.  Why?

One reason is that some modern tarot authors have presented the tarot as a tool for psychoanalysis – and a new trend of using tarot not as a fortune telling device but as a method of therapy has become very popular.  Some authors prescribe to an “interactive” style of tarot reading where the querent looks at the cards and tells the reader what they mean to them, turning a tarot session into a therapy session.  While this can be helpful in many cases, the art of prediction gets lost in the process. 

An argument I have heard is that fortune telling is “disempowering” or “unethical”.  How?  Its been said that a predicted event implies that the querent has “no control” over their lives.  As a huge believer in free will, I find this to be nonsense. After all, nothing is cut in stone.  In my opinion, having an idea of what may transpire empowers a client in a major way.  It’s like doing a road trip with a map.  If you have an idea of where you are going, can’t you decide if you want to go down a different path if you don’t like the view?  And isn’t that easier to do when you have the map in hand?

Another consideration is the ego factor.  We tarot readers tend to be a sensitive lot. Some are not comfortable with the idea that they’ll be proven wrong. Like weathermen, we look at the patterns and make predictions to the best of our abilities. It is definitive fact that only a certain percentage of our predictions will truly hit the mark.  That is why this is not work for lightweights or people who are controlled entirely by their egos. It takes a fair amount of cojones to make a prediction. A thick skin is mandatory because in this line of work you’re fair game, and many people will WANT you to be wrong.  Using the tarot as therapy may be safer in some ways, but you shouldn’t let the “fear of being wrong” inhibit you from making predictions and giving your client’s reading the full breadth and depth that could provide them the insight they need to guide their lives in a truly practical way. 

It may be intimidating to use the tarot to predict  But think about it this way – why do people come to see psychics, tarot readers and astrologers?  They come to learn about future events.  Not providing this service to a client is akin to visiting a dentist who talks about cleaning your teeth rather than actually doing it.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

I’d love to hear your thoughts about predicting.  Leave your comments below! 

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How To Give A Fabulous Tarot Reading

Saturday, December 19th, 2009

In my last post I wrote about getting a great tarot reading.  But what about how to GIVE one?  Many new readers struggle with this and I get asked all the time for advice.  Whether you are a tarot reading newbie or an old pro, here are a few tips to help you give awesome tarot readings:

1.  Ground yourself.  No matter how talented you are, if you are not calm and present, your readings will suffer.  It is imperative that your mind is in a good place so the information you receive will be accurate and not tainted by your moods or issues.  I highly recommend that you learn to meditate. A consistent meditation practice will center your mind, allowing for more focus and a better connection to your own inner wisdom.  If you are the ansty type (I am), take up yoga.  It has a wonderful way of “tricking” you into a meditative state.  Every day I do a yoga practice and meditate.  I can personally attest that it has helped my readings immensely.

2.  Prep your environment.  Be sure the place you read in is tranquil and clean.  Although I am a cluttery gal, I keep my office neat and free of messy distractions.  I like to burn a little incense to create a nice vibe and I play some soft music in the background.  Candles and crystals are also a nice touch for creating a spiritual mood.  My clients often remark that my office is soothing. 

3.  Uncross your legs and arms.  This sounds silly but if you like to sit with crossed feet or arms, it can “block energy”.  Plant your feet firmly on the ground and refrain from a closed off stance.  I sometimes like to put my feet up on another chair.  While this may not be totally grounding, it is relaxing for me.

4.  Get rid of unnecessary distractions.  In other words, if you have unfriendly dogs, screaming kids or a nosy spouse, scoot them out of your room.  I have two friendly cats that can really be a pain.  At times I will allow them in the office (some clients even insist on their presence!), but when they get too obnoxious, they get the boot!

5.  Be sober.  No one enjoys a cocktail as much as I do – however, a tipsy tarot reader is never a good thing. You need to be conscious in order to receive information properly.  (I know of one psychic who did a reading for two senior citizens while he was tripping on acid!  He said it was NOT a groovy experience as he could barely function!)  If you like to imbibe, do it after your work.  Your clients deserve a fully functional reader!

6.  Practice often.  The best tarot readers constantly practice to perfect their art. Whether this means doing readings on a regular basis or learning new techniques from other sources, keep on practicing. The more you do it, the better you will get.  Read for everyone who is interested. 

7.  Get your ego out of it.  If you are worried about “being wrong” or on the other hand enamored with your own abilities, you are bound to fail.  Learn to be neutral.  Deliver information without attaching your emotions, ego, or need for validation to the reading.  Simply read.

Happy tarot reading!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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It’s My Party And I’ll Scry If I Want To

Wednesday, September 16th, 2009

Since the beginning of my tarot career, I have worked at various types of parties and venues.  In fact, this time of year tends to be quite popular with Halloween right around the corner!  (That date usually gets booked a year in advance!)

Over the years, I’ve had great experiences and not-so-good ones.  Let me share a few as this may help you to know what to expect if you are ever asked to work a party.

In some ways, parties are more challenging than working in my own office.  First of all, I have no control over the environment.  Which means I am either in a calm room or a chaotic mess. The most extreme example was the time I entered a dim apartment above a bar.  I have terrible night vision but I thought I saw something run across the table.  After my eyes adjusted, I watched cockroaches running up and down the wall and mice scuttering about with great urgency. Horrified, I clutched my purse to my lap and silently prayed that I would not take any roaches home with me.  I refused to read for these people again.  In fact, I now avoid going to areas that may be sketchy.  It’s just not worth it.

I’ve had the good fortune of meeting some wonderful hosts that make me feel very welcome. There is nothing nicer than coming into a home where you are made to feel like a valued guest, rather than the “hired help”.  One of my favorite clients has a party every November and it is always a treat to go to her house.  Not only does she have a beautiful and comfortable home, but I am made to feel like a friend of the family. There is always an invite to eat or imbibe as well as a cozy room to read in.

There will always be a few rude ones who expect that you “owe” them something since they booked you.  One time, a woman asked me if I wanted to join them for a bite to eat before I began reading. I took a very small plate of chips and snacks.  We were chatting a bit when all of a sudden she asks me in front of the whole group of people if I was going to give her a “hostess gift” since she was “providing the space and the food”.  I was so shocked that I could barely utter a word.  It was not easy to get in the mood to read after that!

At another event, a client brought me a sandwich to eat and then asked me when I would be “giving him a free reading”.  He added “we’ve been awfully good to you” (because he gave me a sandwich??).  As you can probably guess, I stopped doing parties for both of these clients.  I can’t or won’t read for people that offend me.  I find myself being unable to because this attitude makes me incredibly uncomfortable. And when I am not feeling relaxed, it is difficult to read. 

On occasion, you may find yourself getting stuck reading for a jerk.  When you are in the party atmosphere, you are at the mercy of whoever the host invites.  I remember walking into one house where the whole gathering was a group of gang members!  It was a scene straight out of “Training Day”!  The questions revolved around police and who was betraying who.  I read those cards on pins and needles, worrying that if the wrong card came up, I’d be helping to sign someone’s death warrant! 

I’ve gotten better at screening who will be at these parties – but you never know.  Sometimes there may be a drunk in attendance.  Or the one “skeptic” who wants to challenge you in front of the whole group.  I take it all in stride now.  I have dealt with enough mean people that I no longer take any of it personally. I’m not even afraid to say that I won’t read for a person right to their face.  “Is it worth it to me?” is what I ask myself.  If the answer is no, I won’t even put myself into a situation that isn’t healthy or positive.

When I was first reading, I would travel all over the place.  As I’ve gotten older, I realized that I really don’t like driving much.  So, I’ve put some limits on my driving time.  I’ve lost a few clients who were mad at this development but I just don’t see the point in driving for an hour each way. Especially in bad weather. I’ve driven in a few blizzards and won’t do it any longer.  Last year, I got stuck in an unexpected snowstorm that developed during the party. It was a white knuckled drive the whole way home and I barely missed being hit a few times!

Once in a great blue moon, I’ve gotten shortchanged.  It is an embarrassing thing for me and the host.  I don’t have an issue calling and getting my money – but that uncomfortable exchange has cost me a client or two.  I don’t really care as it is the principle to me.  If I am owed another 20 dollars, then I am owed it.  Period.  I’ve even gotten overpaid in one situation!  The client called me the next day (I had not even counted the money yet!) and I was able to get the money back to her immediately.  It works both ways! 

One of my biggest pet peeves is an unorganized event.  This is when I end up sitting, with nothing to do. It usually happens because the hostess has not gotten her situation under control.  I now insist that readings MUST be back to back and that has pretty much solved that problem.  I also request an EXACT head count. This way, I know how to budget my time and this makes the hostess take her party more seriously.  It may seem a bit controlling, but saves countless headaches in the long run. Trust me on that.

Knowing my own limits is probably the most important lesson.  I have  restricted the hours I will read.  Back in the day, I would do parties that lasted 6 hours or more.  It was like a psychic gang bang and very draining!  I gradually cut my time down.  Now, 3 hours is the max because my voice starts to go after all that talking.  My body has given me the signal that my stamina is not what it used to be and I must heed that.  In my opinion, a shorter party means more quality readings anyway.

If you decide to venture into doing parties as part of your tarot career, make sure you have some basic boundaries in place.  Not only will you stay sane but you’ll help to make these events a success for the hosts as well!  Party on!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com


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