Whether you read tarot for yourself or others, the environment can make all the difference in the quality of the reading. A calm, soothing atmosphere allows for an open, receptive mind, which is favorable for a good tarot reading.  It doesn't matter if you actually see clients in person or only do phone readings - the same principle applies. 

The Office

I'm fortunate that I am able to have an office where my clients can visit me directly.  I put my personal stamp on my place and it is comfortable for me.  There is almost no place I'd rather be than my office (well, except maybe the kitchen!).  If you decide to set up a space in your home or rent a space, here are a few tips to keep in mind:

1. Make it relaxed and welcoming.  Beautiful pictures, a homey decor and plenty of light lend a cozy vibe.  Have your table at a decent ergonomic height so no one has to hunch over it.  Get chairs that are comfortable enough but STURDY (I have had more than one chair destroyed by a bigger client).  A soft couch is a nice touch, especially in a waiting area.  Candles can soften the atmosphere but are not necessary.  Keep your office neat and clean.  Clutter can be distracting - try to keep it to a minimum especially on the surface you intend to read on.  (I'll admit to being rather cluttery myself but it's mostly books and I keep it contained well enough.)

2. Keep the temperature comfortable. If your office is too hot or too cold your client will not be able to relax.  You may end up having to pay extra in energy costs but this is worth it in my opinion.  I'd rather pay a few dollars to the energy man to insure my clients are happy.

3. Some tarot readers frown on "tinkly music" but I heartily disagree. I like to have relaxing new age or classical music playing in the background.  Many of my clients come here from work and this immediately soothes their frazzled nerves and helps to set a chilled out tone.

4. Incense is optional.  I keep this to a minimum as many people are allergic or just don't like the smell. If you really must burn it, consider doing it an hour before work - and keep the window slightly open to get rid of the smoke. Because people can be sensitive to scents, you may want to consider NOT wearing perfume. 

5. Pets can be adorable but also unpredictable.  You may want to keep Rover out of your office to avoid potential issues. I have two cats and one happens to be extremely obnoxious.  I'll allow them down at times but usually, they get the boot if they become unruly - or if a client is allergic or fearful.  Believe it or not, some of my clients actually REQUEST the cats sit in on the reading! 

6. Avoid the oogie boogie thing as much as possible.  In other words, you may want to keep your images and person rather neutral.  Some people are fearful enough walking into a tarot reading and anything too "spooky" could be a turn off.  In my own office, I have many religious pictures from the 1920's (a nod to my Catholic roots and my favorite era).  I always get a lot of compliments on them. But I also have a framed antique bisque baby doll that sometimes freaks out sensitive types until I explain to them that I bought it that way! And then there are some who actually prefer the gypsy witch experience and may be disappointed if you appear too "normal".  I've had a few that thought they'd walk in and I'd be wearing a turban....they were quite bummed out that wasn't the case. 

Phone Readings

1.  Make sure you are in a relaxed place so you can concentrate.  This means the baby is asleep, the dog is out of your hair, hubby isn't walking in and out and the television is off.  I find I need my environment super quiet if I am doing a reading over the phone.  I want to give all of my attention to the client - distractions destroy my ability to focus.

2. Be sure the client is in an equally relaxed place. I learned this the hard way. I had a few clients who would call me and then spend half the reading yelling at their children or spouse.  I now insist they schedule their appointment when they know they will not be disturbed.  I need the client to concentrate as much as I am because they are not here to shuffle the cards!

Parties and Public Places

You will have little to no control in this arena.  When you do anything at other people's homes, you are at their mercy.  I've done readings in freezing cold basements, sweltering bedrooms, screaming loud taverns, next to blaring speakers at a convention, and in a cockroach ridden mouse infested hellhole.  I've learned to be flexible but now set some boundaries as much as possible.

You can do a little "damage control" by asking your client in advance what the area will be like. If you are doing a major public event, insist on a quiet table away from the action.  Ask your hostess to put you in a separate room if possible.  Some tarot readers I know even bring their own tablecloths, crystals, candles and music to insure they are able to set a vibe they like!  As long as you and the querent can find a way to be relaxed, you may find that you can read your tarot anywhere!


Blessings!
Theresa
http://www.thetarotlady.com

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PS That is NOT my office pictured above!  LOL Just a lovely picture.

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Most people who know me also know that in addition to reading tarot, I am an avid yogi and have been practicing for well over a decade.  About 6 years ago, I started to teach yoga and meditation so that I could share these gifts with others who are seeking a more enlightened life. 

Many Westerners think of yoga as an "exercise" program and begin taking classes in hopes of achieving the so-called "yoga butt".  I cringe inwardly at this idea because yoga is so much more than that.  In fact, the physical aspect of yoga is really only a tiny part.  Yoga has a rich history and deep philosophical roots.  For example, there are "8 limbs" of yoga - and each one gives us an idea of how to live more consciously.  When we bring awareness to our thoughts, words, breath, physicality, and actions, we can begin to reach "samadhi" (liberation), the ultimate goal.

The first limb consists of the "Yamas" (translated as "restraints"). These are the ethical principles that guide us on living in the outside world.  When we live a life that respects all and treats others with compassion, we can truly begin to live our dharma and find meaning in our lives. 

A majority of my contact with the outside world comes through my work.  How can I apply the Yamas to tarot reading? 

1. The first Yama - and probably the most important one - is AHIMSA - which means "non-violence" .  I'm not talking about  using the tarot as a physical weapon (I doubt a deck of 78 cards can do much damage on a human body)!  It's about actively practicing kindness and compassion with those who seek to use my services.   This can be accomplished by treating clients with respect as well as choosing words that are life affirming and positive.  A reader must be as tolerant, sympathetic and considerate as possible. If you have ever gone to a tarot reader that is negative and rude, you know how damaging that kind of vibe can be.  I'll never forget years ago a girlfriend and I went to see a very unhappy tarot reader who did nothing but project her bitterness on to us.  We walked out of there laughing because nothing she said applied or made sense.  It was obvious that she was down on her own life and wanted us to be as miserable as her.  For a vulnerable client, a reader like this can be very damaging.

2. The second Yama is SATYA, or "truth".  Honesty should guide every word that comes out of your mouth. In other words, a tarot reader must strive to deliver a truthful reading.  If you only tell the client what they want to hear, you are doing a disservice.  However, that does not mean being harsh with your delivery - once again, Ahimsa must be the cornerstone of every action.  You can deliver a candid tarot reading without being "brutal".  A heavy hand can be necessary on occasion but a "velvet sledgehammer" is always my preferred tool.  I also believe that you can practice Satya by being honest about your abilities.  Never pretend to be something that you are not. This could be as simple as knowing when you are not the right reader for a specific client.  This is humbling but if you get your ego out of it, you'll see that this is far better than thinking you can read for any and all who come your way.  It's not possible.  NO reader can do that.

3.  The third Yama is ASTEYA, translated as "non-stealing".  This can be best practiced with your fellow tarot readers.  For example, give credit where credit is due. Don't take the glory for something if you didn't do the work.  Always acknowledge your teachers and mentors for their assistance.  Avoid actively seeking out a fellow reader's clientele (there is enough work for everyone!).  This is a bad business practice born out of scarcity mentality.

4. The fourth Yama is BRAHMACHARYA, or "celibacy".  No, I'm not talking about it from a sexual point of view (however, sleeping with your clients is NOT a smart idea.  I know of one guy who used to do that and it brought him all kinds of trouble!). I'm talking about it from an "energy" viewpoint.  If you are constantly doing tarot readings without conserving some of your energy, you risk burnout - which is no good for you or your clients.  Restraining yourself here is wise and prudent. I adhere to a strict policy of only reading 4 days out of the week and limiting the number of clients I serve.  Maintaining healthy boundaries makes for a better tarot reader - and a better experience for your clients and a healthier business and life experience in general. 

5.  The last Yama is "APARIGRAHA" or "non-grasping".  You can practice Aparigraha by not "owning" your clients.  They are free to come and go as they please - and to seek a different reader if they should choose to do so for any reason.  A tarot reader should avoid pushy solicitation. There are some unethical readers that take it to an extreme by telling a client that they have a "curse" on them - and then offering to remove it for thousands of dollars!  Some of these con artists will resort to calling the client at home at all hours of the day and night.  This is unconscionable and downright criminal! NO ethical reader should EVER engage in such practices. 

My other favorite way of exercising Aparigraha is by being objective and "letting go of the readings". I actively work at detaching myself from the outcome - and when my work with a client is done, I also choose to let it go.  In other words, I do not obsess over the reading.  I close my chakras and move on to the next one without hanging on to what was.  I choose to live in the moment. That's how I roll.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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Can I make a confession?  I've been waiting for this book with bated breath and was mighty envious that Douglas of Tarot Eon had his hands on a copy before I did. I'm usually not the jealous type but I was in full on coveting mode when I read his review.  I had to have it!  Immediate gratification!!!  Oh, the agony of waiting!  Finally the day came when the familiar Amazon smiley box arrived at my door and I got my paws around the long awaited book. 

I'm an old timer here in regards to tarot reading. I've been playing around with it for almost 30 years.  I've dealt with clients from all walks of life and answered every type of question that you can imagine.  But I still find myself learning and searching for new techniques (even though I am rather fond of my own methods!).  A few months ago, I got turned on to some excellent blogs from the UK that had some curious systems (card counting, Elemental Dignities, etc.)  that caught my eye and I've been intrigued ever since.  This book, "Beyond The Celtic Cross" by Paul Hughes Barlow and Catherine Chapman (two of the aforementioned bloggers) sheds light on these techniques and helps the reader to apply them in a way that can turn any tarot reading into a richer experience.

Written in a dialogue fashion between the two authors, we get to see these methods in action so to speak.  It begins with Catherine writing to Paul about a tarot reading that she was having trouble interpreting.  With Paul as her steady guide, they deftly maneuver through the different systems and demonstrate how to interpret with them using Catherine's reading as the example throughout the entire book.

Card Counting is very new to me and it was confusing to understand - but by following along with their example, it finally begun to sink in.  And yes - it does add a new dimension to tarot reading.  I had a basic understanding of Elemental Dignities but this book cleared up any lingering questions I had. I am a very visual learner and by having Catherine's reading to "see" what was happening, I put the pieces together and was able to understand where they got their interpretations.  This is a huge plus in my opinion. 

Not only do we get to see the methods in action but we get to see Catherine grow as a tarot reader and visionary.  This made the book a very personal experience, not just some old dry tarot book that would have bored me to tears.  I highly recommend this to any tarot reader - but especially to those who are looking to shake up their current reading style.  Trust me, you will never look at tarot the same!

Blessings!
Theresa

Learn more about the authors  and their techniques at their websites:

Paul Hughes Barlow at Supertarot
Catherine Chapman at Tarot Elements

Foreward written by:
Douglas Gibb at Tarot Eon

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A few years ago, I was sitting in my office when suddenly a flash came before my eyes.  I darted upstairs to breathlessly tell my husband "I just had a vision!  Someone is going to give me monkey socks!"  He looked at me quizzically and then continued on with what he was doing.  Months later, one of my clients sat down for a reading and casually said  "I have a present for you" and proceeds to hand me a pair of green socks with monkeys on them!  I almost fell out of my chair as I quickly ran upstairs to excitedly show my husband.  "Great... my wife can predict a pair of monkey socks but not the winning lottery numbers." he replied with a smirk and rolling eyes.

Living with a psychic has taken some of the element (and excitement) of surprise away from him.  I've even managed to ruin many a birthday and holiday as  I am such a good gift guesser that he must now resort to elaborate schemes to get me off the scent.  I often will deliver an answer before he even utters the question.  So he no longer gets a thrill when I have a "vision".  When every day is prediction day, it becomes second nature and rather common. 

Thank goodness my clients never tire of it though or I'd be talking to a blank wall.  Working as a tarot reader has allowed me to utilize my intuition in a way that can aid my clients and help them to navigate life's ups and downs with a bit more grace.  However, I have noticed that "fortune telling" has fallen out of favor in my line of work.  Many tarot readers and other intuitives shy away from it.  Why?

One reason is that some modern tarot authors have presented the tarot as a tool for psychoanalysis - and a new trend of using tarot not as a fortune telling device but as a method of therapy has become very popular.  Some authors prescribe to an "interactive" style of tarot reading where the querent looks at the cards and tells the reader what they mean to them, turning a tarot session into a therapy session.  While this can be helpful in many cases, the art of prediction gets lost in the process. 

An argument I have heard is that fortune telling is "disempowering" or "unethical".  How?  Its been said that a predicted event implies that the querent has "no control" over their lives.  As a huge believer in free will, I find this to be nonsense. After all, nothing is cut in stone.  In my opinion, having an idea of what may transpire empowers a client in a major way.  It's like doing a road trip with a map.  If you have an idea of where you are going, can't you decide if you want to go down a different path if you don't like the view?  And isn't that easier to do when you have the map in hand?

Another consideration is the ego factor.  We tarot readers tend to be a sensitive lot. Some are not comfortable with the idea that they'll be proven wrong. Like weathermen, we look at the patterns and make predictions to the best of our abilities. It is definitive fact that only a certain percentage of our predictions will truly hit the mark.  That is why this is not work for lightweights or people who are controlled entirely by their egos. It takes a fair amount of cojones to make a prediction. A thick skin is mandatory because in this line of work you're fair game, and many people will WANT you to be wrong.  Using the tarot as therapy may be safer in some ways, but you shouldn't let the "fear of being wrong" inhibit you from making predictions and giving your client's reading the full breadth and depth that could provide them the insight they need to guide their lives in a truly practical way. 

It may be intimidating to use the tarot to predict  But think about it this way - why do people come to see psychics, tarot readers and astrologers?  They come to learn about future events.  Not providing this service to a client is akin to visiting a dentist who talks about cleaning your teeth rather than actually doing it.


Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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I have to confess something.  I'm a wee bit OCD.  I've never been actually diagnosed but it is obvious to me as some of my habits are a bit repetitive.  In fact, most morning are like Groundhog's Day around here.   Maybe it's the Catholic girl in me but I enjoy doing things in a systematic and ritualistic manner. 

In fact, there is very little in my life that is unplanned.  Odd for a Gemini and a free spirit, eh?  Perhaps that feeling of structure keeps me calm and grounded (or maybe there is a little Joan Crawford burning deep in my heart?). 

Some of my weird little invented customs do produce magical results though.  Let me share my secret little New Years Ritual with you as an example.  I've been doing it for years now and I swear it works almost too well.  Here's what I do - first, I check my numerology for the year and find out what my "yearly number" will be.  (This is the number that defines the overall tone of the year.)  It's not hard to figure out and you don't have to be a math whiz to do it.  For example, I am born on June 11.  Since next year will be 2010, I am going to add the numbers from my birthday to 2010 and reduce it all down to a single digit:

6+1+1+2+0+1+0 = 11
Reduce 1+1 = 2

So my number for 2010 is a 2 year.  Next, I find out the "theme" for the year based on the number.  I HIGHLY recommend you check out Chris Delorey's Creative Numerology site to read her interpretations for your year.  Her descriptions are very detailed and accurate.  (http://creativenumerology.com/index.php?inc=includes/yearlycycles.html)  According to Chris, a 2 year is about slowing down, developing patience and relationships. 

Based on that information, I pick a "theme song" - perhaps Guns and Roses "Patience" or The Eagles "Take It Easy" (I actually won't be using either of those as my theme song is always top secret plus I hate those songs!).  At exactly Midnight when the year changes, I listen to my theme song (with the advent of You Tube I now get to watch it as a video!).  And voila - the tone is set and the magic begins for me!  It is interesting to see how my year develops - often I will listen to the theme song to reinforce the magic - or something will happen and I'll immediately think of the song. 

But a sage word of advice - I learned the HARD way to be VERY careful in my song choices.  Sometimes this works a little too well and if the song is a bummer in any way, I can guarantee that those vibes are very much in play.  I choose now as carefully as if I were choosing to write my will!  If you try this little ritual, I'd love to know your results (if you think it is weird or cheesy, just humor me, okay?).  Or post your own New Years Eve rituals in the comments section below - I'd love to hear what you do on this magical night!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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PS Don't forget that this new years we end with a Full Moon, Blue Moon and Lunar Eclipse - the potential for powerful change is in the air - think big!




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In my last post I wrote about getting a great tarot reading.  But what about how to GIVE one?  Many new readers struggle with this and I get asked all the time for advice.  Whether you are a tarot reading newbie or an old pro, here are a few tips to help you give awesome tarot readings:

1.  Ground yourself.  No matter how talented you are, if you are not calm and present, your readings will suffer.  It is imperative that your mind is in a good place so the information you receive will be accurate and not tainted by your moods or issues.  I highly recommend that you learn to meditate. A consistent meditation practice will center your mind, allowing for more focus and a better connection to your own inner wisdom.  If you are the ansty type (I am), take up yoga.  It has a wonderful way of "tricking" you into a meditative state.  Every day I do a yoga practice and meditate.  I can personally attest that it has helped my readings immensely.

2.  Prep your environment.  Be sure the place you read in is tranquil and clean.  Although I am a cluttery gal, I keep my office neat and free of messy distractions.  I like to burn a little incense to create a nice vibe and I play some soft music in the background.  Candles and crystals are also a nice touch for creating a spiritual mood.  My clients often remark that my office is soothing. 

3.  Uncross your legs and arms.  This sounds silly but if you like to sit with crossed feet or arms, it can "block energy".  Plant your feet firmly on the ground and refrain from a closed off stance.  I sometimes like to put my feet up on another chair.  While this may not be totally grounding, it is relaxing for me.

4.  Get rid of unnecessary distractions.  In other words, if you have unfriendly dogs, screaming kids or a nosy spouse, scoot them out of your room.  I have two friendly cats that can really be a pain.  At times I will allow them in the office (some clients even insist on their presence!), but when they get too obnoxious, they get the boot!

5.  Be sober.  No one enjoys a cocktail as much as I do - however, a tipsy tarot reader is never a good thing. You need to be conscious in order to receive information properly.  (I know of one psychic who did a reading for two senior citizens while he was tripping on acid!  He said it was NOT a groovy experience as he could barely function!)  If you like to imbibe, do it after your work.  Your clients deserve a fully functional reader!

6.  Practice often.  The best tarot readers constantly practice to perfect their art. Whether this means doing readings on a regular basis or learning new techniques from other sources, keep on practicing. The more you do it, the better you will get.  Read for everyone who is interested. 

7.  Get your ego out of it.  If you are worried about "being wrong" or on the other hand enamored with your own abilities, you are bound to fail.  Learn to be neutral.  Deliver information without attaching your emotions, ego, or need for validation to the reading.  Simply read.

Happy tarot reading!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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I get asked a lot about my work - not just about what it means to be a tarot reader but about the cards and readings in general.  One of the things clients seem to be most concerned about is how to get the most out of their tarot reading.  Here is a little sage advice I like to pass on for anyone who is considering visiting a tarot reader:

1.  I always suggest that people bring a list of questions that are important to them.  The reason why - you may get so wrapped up in what the tarot reader is saying that you walk out without asking your most significant questions (it has happened to me!).  Reflect on the issues that are the most crucial and write them down.  This way, you insure the reading focuses on relevant things.

2.  Avoid getting a reading if you are in a distressed state.  You will not hear a word the reader is saying.  The best time to get a reading is when you are calm and able to be mentally present. 

3. Try not to interrupt the reader.  For myself, the information comes like a ticker tape in my mind and when a client repeatedly interrupts, it breaks the flow of information.  Wait until it is time to ask your questions (I always allow a generous period to ask questions).

4.  Tape your reading.  This is a great idea for those who tend to be forgetful.  If you have a recorder,  bring it.  Most tarot readers won't mind.  (I personally hate the sound of my own voice - but hey, I'm not listening to it so tape away!)  Otherwise, a notepad is another option. Some of my clients will even bring a buddy along who acts as a "secretary" and takes notes for them!

5.  Keep an open mind and attitude.  If you come into a reading with a "prove it to me" stance, you are setting a tone which is not conducive.  In fact, some of us find it downright rude!  I am not saying you should spill your life story when you walk in the door (I never encourage that either), but relax, uncross your arms and don't be so defensive.  Personally, I find it puzzling when someone comes in for a tarot reading but does everything possible to drag a red herring all over the place. What is the point? To prove the reader is wrong? Or to really "make them work"?   RELAX.  A relaxed YOU leads to a clear reading and allows the tarot reader to do their work without feeling like they have a gun to their head.

6.  And most importantly, choose a tarot reader you TRUST.  Best way to find a good one? Word of mouth.  Listen to other people's experiences and then decide if the reader is a good fit for you. 

Happy tarot reading!
Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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Although I consider myself first and foremost a tarot reader, I am also a professional and I tend to be very business like in my dealings.  Most people who have worked with me know that I run my ship tightly - not only do I have regular hours like any job but my days can consist of all manner of tedious tasks from bookkeeping to returning calls and emails.  (It's not all glamorous tarot work that I do here in my hub!)

As a business professional, I have to be realistic that not every person that calls or walks in the door is meant to be a lifetime client.  As I wrote in my previous post, some people may never come back for whatever reason.  But there are also times when I have had to show someone the door.  As much as I hate doing this (believe it or not, my bark is worse than my bite!), it is often not only beneficial for me but sometimes in the best interest of the client.

When is it right to "fire" a client?

Any tarot reader will have their own reasons why. For me, it all comes down to two things - respect and compatibility.  Here are some of the reasons I have needed to cut a client off:

1.  No shows. This is my number one pet peeve.  A client who doesn't even have the courtesy to give me a simple phone call to cancel never gets another chance.  There are some who think I am sitting here with nothing else to do.  Believe me, I can either fill that spot if you didn't show - or there are many other projects I can busy myself with (like writing this blog!).  To me, this is the rudest gesture as I make this time available and find it incredibly disrespectful. 

2.  Dickering over prices. I hate haggling.  I don't even do it when I travel.  I know in some cultures, this is a common thing, but for me, it feels uncomfortable.  If you can't afford me, then don't come.  Simple as that.  A woman who had booked a few parties with me in the past tried to tell me that "no one will pay that" when my prices changed - and then she tried to negotiate a price break.  I refused to do business with her ever again.  If you provide a service, you should be paid well for your time.  I learned this from my son's drum instructor.  Years ago, he had also changed policies and this required a steep price hike. When I  visibly gulped, he said to me: "The lessons are free.  It is my time you are paying for and I value my time very much."  I used that as a business mantra ever since.

3.  Using the tarot reading in an unethical way. I am not a moralist but I do not want my readings used in any way but for someone's higher good.  Once they leave the office, I have no control over what a client may do with the information I provide.  On rare occasion, I do hear through the grapevine that someone may have twisted my words to suit a purpose.  For example, a married man got a reading from me and wanted to know if he could "have an affair".  The reading said he "could" if he was so inclined.  So what does he do?  Proceeds a few weeks later to hit on a woman and tell her that  "Theresa the tarot reader said I should have an affair so I'm looking for a woman".  Unfortunately for him, she was a friend of mine and reported back to me.  Banned for life. 

4.  Personality conflicts.  Sometimes for no fault of the client or mine, our personalities don't mesh.  If I am uncomfortable with a person's vibe, I won't read for them.  The reading won't work well if I am tense.  This is never easy but I must face the facts that I cannot possibly read for every person.  For example, aggressive or super neurotic types don't wash for me (I also don't read well for "Debbie Downers").  I will generally refer them to a more suitable tarot reader.  In my opinion,  is better to bring them to a person who will be more sympathetic to their energy rather than struggle through the reading myself. 

5.  They are beyond your ability to help.  This is a case where someone may need more help that you can give them - for example someone who needs psychiatric care.  I used to see a woman who was in an abusive relationship.  She would only come to me when they broke up - and her questions revolved around whether or not her abuser would come back to her.  (He always did, unfortunately.) She never wanted to get any help to change her situation - she was only concerned about preserving this sick dynamic at all costs.  No amount of tarot readings were going to break the cycle she had created for herself. This was too hard for me to deal with and beyond my ability to reach into her and crack open this vicious cycle she was actively pursuing.  This is a sign that someone needs professional  help.  I gave her the number of a good therapist and refused to see her again.  (All readers should not provide legal, medical or psychiatric services - have a list of appropriate resources handy for referrals if you encounter someone who needs to seek professional help.)

Ultimately, it all comes down to healthy boundaries and mutual respect.  While this is an intuitive and often times emotionally charged business, it IS still a business.  If you are working as a tarot reader, it is up to you to decide who you can serve and how best you can serve them with policies that create appropriate boundaries and a fair and clear presentation that allows clients to know what they can expect. 

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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A few weeks ago, I had a client call me in a panic.  "I cheated on you" she breathlessly proclaimed as she launched into a tale of woe about an experience with another tarot reader.  Cheating on me? That dramatic statement made me laugh but it got me wondering.  Why do clients go to other readers, especially if they claim to like your services?  Why do some leave, never to be heard of again?  And more importantly, what are my own feelings regarding "loyalty"?

A client may decide that they want to visit another reader for some of the following reasons:

1.  They want a second opinion.  Perhaps they are a Nervous Nelly  type that needs a lot of confirmation.  Or maybe they don't feel your read is accurate for them and may want to see if someone else says something more to their liking.  There are even a few that will go from reader to reader to reader - until they get the answer they want.  (This is rather obsessive in my opinion.)

2.  They may want to try something different.  I am mainly a tarot reader.  If someone is looking for deep chart analysis, past life regressions, mediums, dream interpretations or palmistry, they may be better off seeking the services of a specialist.  I am not all things to all people (I'd like to be, but am wise enough to know my own limits!).

3. They can't wait.  Oftentimes, my schedule is jam packed.  This can leave a client in a bad position if they need a reading pronto.  So, they may look around to find someone who is more available.  Also, a client who lives at a distance may want to meet with someone in their area.  If I could astral travel, I would - but that ain't happening.

Why would a client leave permanently? 

1.  Budget woes.  Whenever I raise my rates (which is rare),  there is always a little fallout.  People sometimes can't afford it - or feel angered that I am not at the prices I was at 20 years ago.  I had one lady yell at me and hang up the phone when I told her my new rates.  She never called again (although if she did, I would have fired her in a heartbeat!).

2.  Personality clashes.  I like to think of myself as a pretty easy going type.  But on occasion, a person may walk in the door and feel that I am not in sync with them.  And vice versa.  Pushy and aggressive types don't seem to stick around me very much (this makes me quite happy).  Super negative types also tend to slink away if I don't reinforce their crummy world view. On a few rare occasions, a client has suddenly become super religious and decided I was "evil".  That pretty much nipped any relationship we had in the bud.

3. You offended them. This can happen quite innocently.  The reading starts off fine but all of a sudden, you drop an F bomb or say something that  makes the client squirm.  Remember the androgynous SNL character, Pat? Well, I had one sit in front of me when I was reading at an occult shop years ago.  For some puzzling reason that I still cannot fathom, I opened my mouth and these words tumbled out before I could catch myself  "What are you?".  She was a she - and she had a great sense of humor about it but was obviously deeply hurt by my remark.  I recovered and did a decent reading but she never came to see me again. I would run into her in the shop, we'd nod but pretty much avoid each other.  Politics and religious talk can also alienate clients - so you may need to keep some of your beliefs to yourself.

4.  Your reading sucked.  You may think you are a tarot superstar but sooner or later, you'll run into that one person you couldn't read.  And yup, to them, your reading was "way off" or "crappy". This is a huge blow to the ego but it happens to all of us.  You can't read for everyone.  There are lots of reasons why this could happen - an off day, a lack of vibe between you, they may be closed minded, etc. And some people will think you stink even if you are accurate because they simply don't want to believe.  Get over it. 

How to handle it? 

The first thing to learn: don't take anything personally.  This requires a lot of inner work and a good dose of humility.  And I don't mean false humility: the "it's not me, only spirit doing the readings through me" statements that are so frequently tossed about.  I mean REAL soul searching humility that requires you to take responsibility for your readings. Realize your own limitations as a reader and be realistic about your client's needs.  Know that you will at times offend, disappoint, piss off and even do a poor job.  This comes with ANY profession.  Let go, brush yourself off, laugh and move on.

Secondly, practice the law of non-grasping.  This simply means that you must acknowledge that your clients have free will and don't owe you anything.  Respect them as independent, intelligent human beings who will always know what is in their OWN best interest.  If they are not happy with your services, recommend them to someone that may be a better fit.  This is not only good for them but for YOU. 

I've been grateful over the years for the many clients that continue to use my services.  Some have been with me since my humble beginnings almost 20 years ago.  I am always thankful for their support. A few have even become dear friends.  But I am equally appreciative for the ones who have taught me lessons and made me learn the art of non-attachment.  I go with the flow and could not have learned to do this without them. 

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

Watch for "You Don't Own Me Part Two - When To Fire A Client" soon!

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

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I had the excellent opportunity to guest post at one of my favorite blogs, Tarot Elements.  My article was about one of the spreads I use, The Horseshoe Spread.  I have been using this layout for years (many of you who come to my office will recognize it) and find it to be deep and reliable.

Check out my entry by clicking HERE.

Psssttt..........while you are at it, be sure to check out some of the other fabulous posts at Tarot Elements!  There are many great articles that you may enjoy!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

        

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You think all you need are a deck of cards and you're ready to roll?  Not quite.  If you make the leap from tarot fan to tarot professional, there are a few things you'll need:

1. Sturdy Tarot Cards - If you have a lot of people handling your decks, you need to purchase decks made on good card stock.  So choose carefully.  I've had some decks that lasted years and others only a few months. Recently, I purchased the Sharman Caselli deck, which was made on rather thin paper.  One aggressive shuffler later, the deck was toast. 

2.  A Quiet Room - I'm lucky as I have my own spacious office, right in my home.  This allows me to control the environment and make it as peaceful as I need it.  My clients often remark at how calm and relaxing my space is.  If you are not able to have your own office, try to find a local coffee shop or other public venue that is as laid back as possible. Even a small corner in a room at your home is fine as long as there are not too many distractions.

3.  Phone And Email - This is a no brainer but you would not believe how many tarot readers I know who have neither! (This is one of the many reasons we have a flaky reputation!) I don't know how their clients can find them!  I've had the same phone number for 15 years - so my clients have no trouble finding me if they lost my business card.  The world wide web has made things even easier and many clients love being able to shoot me an email, which can sometimes be easier than catching me by phone!  If you change your number, make sure that your clients are able to get the new one.  And while you're at it - don't forget to have business cards with your phone and email plainly written.

4.  A Good  Accountant - I adore my accountant, Sam and he is worth his weight in gold!  He keeps me on track, makes sure my taxes are paid and always has good advice about money.  If you decide to go pro, remember that you will be paying self employment tax (which feels like a penalty at times!).  A reliable accountant will ensure you keep your books straight and stay on good terms with the taxman!

5.  Thick Skin - This is one profession where people feel free to call you a devil worshipper, a fraud, etc. so if you are sensitive to judgments, you are going to get your feelings hurt a lot.  Some clients can dump on you or have unrealistic expectations of your services.  And there is always one jerk who wants to prove you wrong.  This comes with the territory.  Learn to let things roll, do the very best that you can and don't take anything personally. 

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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Dear friends

As you know a few wonderful colleagues and I have started our new forum and blog.  I'll be contributing a post every Monday called "Mystical Mondays", where I will answer your questions personally!  Please send me your questions at: tarotlady@wi.rr.com with "Mystical Mondays" in the subject line for consideration. Please know that I will not be able to guarantee that your question will be answered.

Check out the blog now to see the first installment:



Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

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Congratulations to Kathy, who won a FREE tarot reading with me!  Be sure to check out her compelling story in the comments section of the recent post "She Shares Sixth Sense By The Seashore"

And a big thank you for everyone who entered and shared such great stories about their own psychic experiences.  Watch for other contests soon!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com
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Are a you an astrology buff or tarot fanatic?  Want a place to discuss or learn more? Well, along with three partners in crime, Suzi (aka Starcana), Jan (aka Astrogrrl) and Kat (aka Taurus Rising), we've created a forum and blog for tarot and astrology enthusiasts! 

The forum will be a great place to share and learn.  Post your questions, insights and topics of interest.  (You must register to post by the way.)  And the blog will be a place for us to enlighten and entertain you with articles, contests and more. 

Visit by clicking on the links below:







Be there or T-Square!
Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

        

A young woman came into my office the other day. When I pulled out my tarot cards, she said with great disappointment,  "Oh. You're a card reader. I thought you were a psychic and would just tell me things."  Sometimes a client will expect me to be able to see ghosts and auras, talk to the dead, read their mind and/or play some strange guessing game with them. Although I have been able to do those feats at times,  I make no great claims to be anything other than a simple card reader.  

I always say that "anyone can learn to read cards" but to be honest, if you don't have a good grasp on your intuitive side, it may not work quite as well. I compare it to a musician who can play an instrument but has no passion for the music.  So although I claim to "just" read cards, the truth is, I am reading energy or vibes at the same time I am looking at those cards. 

I've always had a highly developed intuition although I didn't understand it  when I was young.  I just knew that I saw things differently.  Strange dreams, contact with spirits and "knowing" something was going to happen were common occurrences for me.  I naively assumed that everyone had these experiences.  As I got a little older, I kept my mouth shut about these things because some people made me feel that I was "weird".  As I look back on that, I have to laugh because that very thing that set me apart and made me feel "different" has been such an important part of my journey and a blessing as well.

Life lessons taught me that intuition serves an important purpose.  Many times, I did not listen to that inner voice - and I suffered the consequences.  Other times, I would follow my gut and things would flow beautifully.  We all have this ability within us.  I am not special just because I use it for my living.  In fact, many police officers would tell you that they rely on it too.  If we all learned to trust our instinctual nature more, perhaps we could live more enlightened lives. Or at the very least, make wiser decisions. 

Now - let me share a few of my favorite stories about psychic experiences with you. 

1. The intuition runs in my family strong.  My Irish grandmother had keen perception and was a very superstitious woman.  One morning, she was sitting in her favorite chair and she saw an image of a man, dressed in work clothes standing before her. She called out to him but he disappeared.  At the time, she lived with her son, Frances. When he came down the stairs, she told him not to go to work.  Later in the day, she got the news that her other son was killed at work. 

2.  When I lived in New York, there was a very handsome man that used to flirt with me.  Technically, he was my "type" but something seemed "off", so I demurred his advances.  We did become friends but I always kept my distance.  A few months later, he was arrested for murdering his girlfriend.  I'll spare you the gruesome details but I thanked spirit for looking out for me. 

3.  A few years ago, my mother was ill in the hospital.  This was common as she was a very sick woman for as long as I can remember.  The doctor visited with her and made the statement that she had about a year to live.  I asked him, what that meant (I like details) and he said "I don't have a crystal ball but her heart is failing and she has maybe a year".  That night, I was walking with my husband and I felt a sensation like someone sawing my umbilical cord. I said out loud "She doesn't have a year.  She's dying now." She had a stroke that night and died three days later. 

As you can see, intuition can play a part in many aspect of our lives. It can warn, it can confirm, it can prepare. How does your intution serve you?

Blessings,
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

PS Want to WIN A FREE HALF HOUR PHONE READING?  Here's how: in the comments section below, write your own story about a psychic experience that you have had. I'll randomly draw a name and the winner will receive the FREE HALF HOUR PHONE READING WITH ME!!!  But hurry - this is a timely contest - all entries must be completed by Saturday, October 3rd!  Drawing will be on Sunday, October 4th. Winners will be announced by email and on this blog.  Comments are moderated to prevent spam, so your entry may not show up right away - be patient!    Can't wait to hear your story!!!! 

        

Since the beginning of my tarot career, I have worked at various types of parties and venues.  In fact, this time of year tends to be quite popular with Halloween right around the corner!  (That date usually gets booked a year in advance!)

Over the years, I've had great experiences and not-so-good ones.  Let me share a few as this may help you to know what to expect if you are ever asked to work a party.

In some ways, parties are more challenging than working in my own office.  First of all, I have no control over the environment.  Which means I am either in a calm room or a chaotic mess. The most extreme example was the time I entered a dim apartment above a bar.  I have terrible night vision but I thought I saw something run across the table.  After my eyes adjusted, I watched cockroaches running up and down the wall and mice scuttering about with great urgency. Horrified, I clutched my purse to my lap and silently prayed that I would not take any roaches home with me.  I refused to read for these people again.  In fact, I now avoid going to areas that may be sketchy.  It's just not worth it.

I've had the good fortune of meeting some wonderful hosts that make me feel very welcome. There is nothing nicer than coming into a home where you are made to feel like a valued guest, rather than the "hired help".  One of my favorite clients has a party every November and it is always a treat to go to her house.  Not only does she have a beautiful and comfortable home, but I am made to feel like a friend of the family. There is always an invite to eat or imbibe as well as a cozy room to read in.

There will always be a few rude ones who expect that you "owe" them something since they booked you.  One time, a woman asked me if I wanted to join them for a bite to eat before I began reading. I took a very small plate of chips and snacks.  We were chatting a bit when all of a sudden she asks me in front of the whole group of people if I was going to give her a "hostess gift" since she was "providing the space and the food".  I was so shocked that I could barely utter a word.  It was not easy to get in the mood to read after that!

At another event, a client brought me a sandwich to eat and then asked me when I would be "giving him a free reading".  He added "we've been awfully good to you" (because he gave me a sandwich??).  As you can probably guess, I stopped doing parties for both of these clients.  I can't or won't read for people that offend me.  I find myself being unable to because this attitude makes me incredibly uncomfortable. And when I am not feeling relaxed, it is difficult to read. 

On occasion, you may find yourself getting stuck reading for a jerk.  When you are in the party atmosphere, you are at the mercy of whoever the host invites.  I remember walking into one house where the whole gathering was a group of gang members!  It was a scene straight out of "Training Day"!  The questions revolved around police and who was betraying who.  I read those cards on pins and needles, worrying that if the wrong card came up, I'd be helping to sign someone's death warrant! 

I've gotten better at screening who will be at these parties - but you never know.  Sometimes there may be a drunk in attendance.  Or the one "skeptic" who wants to challenge you in front of the whole group.  I take it all in stride now.  I have dealt with enough mean people that I no longer take any of it personally. I'm not even afraid to say that I won't read for a person right to their face.  "Is it worth it to me?" is what I ask myself.  If the answer is no, I won't even put myself into a situation that isn't healthy or positive.

When I was first reading, I would travel all over the place.  As I've gotten older, I realized that I really don't like driving much.  So, I've put some limits on my driving time.  I've lost a few clients who were mad at this development but I just don't see the point in driving for an hour each way. Especially in bad weather. I've driven in a few blizzards and won't do it any longer.  Last year, I got stuck in an unexpected snowstorm that developed during the party. It was a white knuckled drive the whole way home and I barely missed being hit a few times!

Once in a great blue moon, I've gotten shortchanged.  It is an embarrassing thing for me and the host.  I don't have an issue calling and getting my money - but that uncomfortable exchange has cost me a client or two.  I don't really care as it is the principle to me.  If I am owed another 20 dollars, then I am owed it.  Period.  I've even gotten overpaid in one situation!  The client called me the next day (I had not even counted the money yet!) and I was able to get the money back to her immediately.  It works both ways! 

One of my biggest pet peeves is an unorganized event.  This is when I end up sitting, with nothing to do. It usually happens because the hostess has not gotten her situation under control.  I now insist that readings MUST be back to back and that has pretty much solved that problem.  I also request an EXACT head count. This way, I know how to budget my time and this makes the hostess take her party more seriously.  It may seem a bit controlling, but saves countless headaches in the long run. Trust me on that.

Knowing my own limits is probably the most important lesson.  I have  restricted the hours I will read.  Back in the day, I would do parties that lasted 6 hours or more.  It was like a psychic gang bang and very draining!  I gradually cut my time down.  Now, 3 hours is the max because my voice starts to go after all that talking.  My body has given me the signal that my stamina is not what it used to be and I must heed that.  In my opinion, a shorter party means more quality readings anyway.

If you decide to venture into doing parties as part of your tarot career, make sure you have some basic boundaries in place.  Not only will you stay sane but you'll help to make these events a success for the hosts as well!  Party on!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

        

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With the advent of the internet, it is easier than ever to learn how to read tarot cards.  There are many good sites and blogs that are dedicated to tarot practitioners of all levels. Whether you are just starting out or wanting to learn some new methods, the world wide web is full of places to enhance your tarot experience. 

My blog is primarily for those who are already reading tarot - especially the ones venturing into the world of reading professionally.  I am all about helping readers become better, saner readers - so many of my posts focus on ...<< MORE >>

You’ve seen them before. Maybe you’ve even worked
at one of
them.  Psychic fairs, spirit fairs,
renaissance fairs….they come with all different names.  Are
they worth participating in?

 

I retired from public appearances many years ago.  I have read tarot in occult shops, small
fairs, bars in addition to lecturing at bookstores. 
It provided stellar experience and really helped to hone my
skills but I
am at a point now where I feel more comfortable in my own office. 

 

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Any kind of psychic work is bound to attract some strange clientele. On rare occasion, a reading may start out innocently enough but quickly turn ugly.  What do you do when a client freaks out on you or starts acting in a manner that is troubling?  Here are some sound strategies to consider:

1. Don't take it personally - Sometimes people are looking for a dumping ground.  It may be triggered by something you said in your reading - it may have nothing whatsoever to do with the reading.  Do not attach yourself to the client's issues or reactions.  Remain neutral.  ...<< MORE >>

I had the great honor today to be interviewed by awesome blogger, John Paul Sharp!  He's a regular on Twitter, a tarot fan like myself  and an all around cool guy!  Be sure to check out his entries on Tuesdays where he posts his tarot interpretations!

Read my interview by clicking HERE.

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com
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When you read for others, your decks are bound to become worn and beat - especially if you are a high volume reader like myself.  Although some may feel that a well used deck has more power, I find that eventually, like any tool, the readings can become somewhat dull.  (This is just the way I feel, by the way, and no means the final word on whether or not a deck is used up!)

Of course, any deck over a long period will acquire nicks and bends but here's a few tips to preserve your decks:

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For many new clients, they may not really know what to expect when they
come for a tarot reading.  In fact, I find that most people come in
with a pretty open mind.  But there are always the few that seem to
have some unrealistic expectations about what tarot readers can or
cannot do. 

Here's a list of a few that come into my office on occasion:

1. 
The Gambler: No, I don't know when to fold them or know when to hold
them but apparently some people expect that I can help them win at
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I'm the first to admit that I despise the sound of my voice on tape. I even cringe when I listen to my answering service (I am not kidding here!) ! No one else seems to mind though.  In fact, some of my yoga students have even remarked that my voice is soothing! Go figure....

Although this is something I struggle with personally, I find that making an audio recording of your readings to be valuable for the client. In fact, I even insist some spacey types bring in a recorder and make it a habit to do so every time.  ...<< MORE >>

Years ago, I had the best reading in my life from a man who was not a
professional reader. Although I initially doubted him (never
underestimate a triple Scorpio!), it turned out he had amazing abilities
that blew me away. But he never directed his talent into a career as he
had other aspirations. I have since lost touch with him but always
wonder what “might have been” if he continued on this path.



I am sometimes surprised by the people who should be doing tarot but
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Still wanting insights on reading tarot? Are you a member of Twitter yet?

If so, follow me and then watch ever Friday for my Tarot Tips!  Each week, I'll post a few tidbits, advising on everything from the cards themselves to how to be a more authentic tarot reader!  This is an opportunity to learn from my 25+ years of reading experience!

So - what are you waiting for?  Sign up today and tweet on!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

www.twitter.com/thetarotlady

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Cards getting stale? Are your readings lacking "oomph"? Do you feel as if you are giving the same old readings, day after day?  You may be in a "tarot rut"!

It happens from time to time, especially for long time readers.  So how does one transform this stagnant energy and put life back into their readings?  Here's a few tips sure to help you get your groove back:

1.  CHANGE DECKS - someone once said to me that "familiarity breeds contempt" and I couldn't agree more. Get yourself a brand new deck.  Perhaps one that you have never worked with.  See if ...<< MORE >>

Picking a deck is really matter of personal choice and for newbie readers, it can be overwhelming to look through the massive selection available.  Where to start?  The list below is comprised of a few decks I feel are great for beginner (or any for that matter) readers.

1. Rider Waite - This is THE standard deck.  Many other decks, including the ones listed below, base their images on the artwork of the RW deck.I usually recommend that all my students start out with this one. The pictures clearly illustrate the meanings.  Many tarot books feature the ...<< MORE >>

I'll admit it willingly.  I am an absolute commitment-phobe.  In my mind, I don't make a very good wife (although my husband would beg to differ) and I can't stand the feeling of  "obligation".  The very word sends shudders down my spine!  I like to keep one foot out the door and I prefer to feel as if I always have an option (an option to what I don't know).

I am even like this with my tarot cards.  For different reasons. I'll use a deck for a long period only to put it in a dark corner if I get sick of it. I may pull it out again, but usually once I am done, I am really done.  Rarely do I like looking at the same thing for years and years. I'll even give the deck away if I feel it is low energy (people are anxious to get a well used deck for some reason - but for me, once it has lost it's juice it never works the same).  I've even been known to flippantly toss a deck if I perceive someone else is using the same deck to copy me in some fashion (imitation is never flattering to me).

But some times there is a very good reason to switch decks up.  Here's why: often times we get so familiar with our decks that the images become stale. We become complacent in our readings and start to use rote meanings rather than inspired intuitive insights. 

Years ago, when I used to teach tarot reading, we would start out with the Rider Waite deck (I always recommend it for beginners).  After the students developed confidence in reading with this deck, I would pull out another deck without warning.  Often, this left the students stuttering and scared.  But then, when they relaxed, something wonderful happened: new meanings would emerge and their readings would get new life!

So if you are rather fond of your deck, I encourage you to shake things up a bit. Try a deck that is completely unfamiliar to you. Maybe even one that is not appealing to your senses.  Pull out a deck that you haven't worked with in years. Use someone else's cards. See what you can do to nudge yourself in a new direction.  Freshen up your readings in this manner from time to time and you may just stay commited to learning tarot thoroughly!

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

        

This winter was a challenge for me in many ways.  Although many things in my life were plugging along as usual, I kind of slipped off the wagon.  The health wagon that is.

When I stepped on the scale, I realized that my nightly glass of wine, gobs of Milky Way Dark Miniature Bars and lax exercise schedule had finally caught up with me.  I gained the dreaded "winter 10".  You'd never guess it as I am one of those people that gains evenly so I can hide it quite well.  (In fact I can even hide it from myself!)   I don't put on weight often as I am a diligent exerciser in addition to my yoga schedule (even with all the yoga I do, I need the extra exercise to keep fit and strong - plus to allow me to eat the way I want, which is rather indulgent as I am quite the foodie!).

As a yoga teacher (my other profession), this is unacceptable. As a tarot reader, this is a sign.  An indicator that I have become lazy about my own boundaries and well being.

This is actually quite common amongst other professional readers.  Often I discover that many of my peers struggle with addiction, depression and health related issues.  One of my closest friends and colleagues, a brilliant astrologer and numerologist, died before the ripe old age of 50 due to a massive heart attack. He was very obese and never took care of himself.  Other colleagues I know have had major life threatening illnesses or severe mental problems.  Why does this happen?  Well, for one, we spend an awful lot of time listening to other people's problems.  And that tends to make us take the focus off of ourselves. Which is NOT healthy. Weak boundaries also cause us to "absorb" energy - and if one does not have a proper release, this can bring a whole host of problems.  And late night schedules (or working other jobs in addition to reading cards) make it difficult to stick to a regime.

In order to serve others fully, we need to make sure we are making ourselves a priority.  If you intend on reading for others, I urge you to put your mental and physical health FIRST.  Daily mediation and exercise are great ways to release tension, let go of your work and bring balance back into your life.  If you can do this, you'll find you are not only healthier, but also setting a good example for your clients. After all, they are coming to see you because you are in a good place, right?

So, I'm back onto my regular weight training and cardio, in addition to the daily yoga and meditation (which I never slack on).  I've banished the Milky Way Darks to a very dark place so that they cannot tempt me any longer. And the nightly glass of wine - although I love you, it is adios until I see my waistline go back to where it should be. 

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

©The Tarot Lady | Theresa Reed

        

So the other day I had a client who came in for a reading. This lady wanted to discuss a situation where she did something that hurt a lot of people, including herself.  She didn't make her decision because she was a bad person with moral issues. In fact, she's perfectly kind and normal.

She went to another reader who encouraged her to have an affair. 

Now, I know sometimes things are not cut and dried and life can throw situations in your way that may cause to you make decisions that may not be in your best interest.  Life can be messy and relationships are not always clear and easy. ( Lord knows I have had to learn my own lessons in this department along the way!) And sometimes affairs, loss, and other life dramas are what we need to get us to be more aware. 

My issue with this situation had nothing to do with judging the client or her decision. I don't judge people who walk in my door.

It was the reader that really angered me because this reader is known for having the most messed up life and for making poor decisions in her own personal life.  In other words, she was projecting her own dicey moral code on this woman. Her "advice" was tainted at best and lacked the integrity needed to help the client handle this situation in a manner that may have been more positive.

As a professional reader, I believe it is imperative that your life be in a good place before you start giving others "spiritual" advice. If you do not have your life in order or are living in an unethical manner, then how can you steer others without being a hypocrite?

After all, would you go to a personal trainer who was overweight and ate junk food? Would you visit a dentist who had really nasty teeth?  I doubt it.  Practice what you preach.

Meditate on what you need to work on and make an effort to live your life as ethically as possible.  It is your duty to be beacon of truth, integrity and compassion.  If you are truly to help others on their spiritual journey, make sure that YOU are someone that you can respect yourself.

Blessings!
Theresa

(On a side note, I won't get a reading from someone if I suspect they don't have their shit together.  If you believe a reader is a hot mess, AVOID getting readings from them or just don't take it seriously. That's my best advice!)

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I’ve been reading an excellent new tarot book, “Best Tarot Practices” by Marcia Masino.  If you haven’t had a chance to pick it up, I recommend that you do.  Whether you are new to tarot or familiar with it, the exercises and interpretations will help to expand your horizons.

 

What really caught my attention was the chapter regarding the difficulty tarot readers have making friends.  In my 17+ years as a reader, I have found this to be all too true. The loneliness factor is one of the hardest parts of my job. I have been in a self imposed exile and have had to learn the hard way about keeping strict boundaries. If I have ever appeared to be antisocial, it isn’t because I want to be this way.

 

As a Gemini and an all around friendly person, I love people and adore meeting like minded folk. But often it has been my experience that some people have agendas due to my career.  I have had people try to befriend me because they were enamored with what I do and wanted to pick my brain to learn how to read cards. I have been burned by some who thought I was a convenient dumping ground and either used me as a quasi therapist or turned on me when I didn’t respond to their neediness.  There were a few that actually started out with sincerity only to begin the familiar “could you toss a couple of cards for me” or “give me your vibes on this situation”.  And then there were one or two who wanted to be “more psychic than the psychic” and that situation isn’t even worth going into here.

 

Finding friendships around my own peers and colleagues has been no better as the “competition” factor eventually creeps in. Rather than supporting, the relationship becomes about besting.  This is one of the main reasons you’ll never see me doing public appearances.  I don’t need this energy as I always believe that there is enough work to go around and everyone has their niche.

 

 But recently, something has been changing. I have been making connections with peers through social media (how geeky is that?) and this time it feels different. I have found a community that is still emerging – one that is filled with like minded but very different souls.  There are no games. No agendas.  Simply tarot lovers that want to play around with the cards, learn from each other and offer support.  For the first time in years, I feel like crawling out of my hermit-like existence and actually engaging. 

 

I am realizing the power of community.  When it is done with the right intention, it can be enlightening and uplifting.  I’ve been feeling a new spring in my step and am looking at my cards with new eyes again.  I am finally connecting with people who are not interested in using me, dumping on me or displaying me like some parlor trick – I am actually feeling an ability to be myself, unshielded, undiluted, uncensored.  To be able to reach out in this manner and relate…….it’s almost overwhelming to me.  It feels like a tarot rebirth to me. I’m excited to see how this continues to develop.

Blessings!

Theresa

www.thetarotlady.com

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I am an avid reader and enjoy reading books and other blogs about tarot.  There are many wonderful writers out there and I often find myself feeling wistful and somewhat unhappy with my own writings.  What do I have to say? And who listens?  My writing style is rather dry.  Why would anyone bother to read this blog when there are other ones full of mystical, magical metaphors and arcane symbolism, written in a language that is flowery and full of vivid visuals?

 

I’ll be the first to admit that I have not one poetic bone in my body. My soul is a practical one and my work leans towards Judge Judy rather than Kerouac. I don’t go into the history of the tarot – I prefer to focus on the here and now. I function like a trusty compass which provides a steady source of guidance that has served me and my clients well over the years. 

 

So when I read these other interpretations of the tarot, I am endlessly fascinated and inspired.  But it is not me. And will never be.  I have no interest in being the keeper of the tarot secrets.  I want to spill them all out and rearrange them and find a way to use them in my every day life. I want them to work for me. That is my tarot voice.

 

Whether you are a new reader or an oldie like me, it is vital that you find your own authentic voice when you read the cards.  You can be lyrical, esoteric, imaginative or pragmatic. What ultimately matters is that you connect with a style that is yours alone. When you are able to do that, your readings will serve you in the highest manner.

Blessings!

Theresa

www.thetarotlady.com

        

 

Dear Tarot Enthusiasts,

 

A very effective way to learn to read the cards is by choosing a “Card For The Day” each morning or evening.  I do this myself each morning just to get a feel for what the day may bring.  Here are the directions:

 

1. Shuffle your deck thoroughly, asking for guidance.
2. With your eyes closed, pick a card from the deck.  Let your intuition guide your hand.
3. After you turn the card over, take a moment to reflect on the images on the card. What grabs your eye?
4. Meditate on the meaning of the card. 
5. If you have a tarot journal, write down your interpretation of the card.  Feel free to consult a tarot book for ideas if you are stumped.
6. As your day progresses, think about how the card applies. If choosing your card in the evening, think about how the card may represent the day's events.

 

This is a great method for bringing the cards into your conscious, everyday life.  As you continue to draw a card each day, you’ll become more comfortable with the images and with interpretation. 

 

Please also check my Facebook Page as I do a “Card For The Day” every day.  You can read my insights and this can also aid you in learning the cards.

 

Blessings!

Theresa

www.thetarotlady.com

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Sometimes a reader needs to learn to listen to her own readings.  Yes, I do readings for myself.  It's not always easy to be objective (especially when the cards don't fall the way I want them to!), but I still like to ask the cards questions when I feel in need of guidance.

I also pull a "card for the day". This allows me to constantly learn and keep the tarot as my focus.  (You can see my "card for the day" at my Facebook Page.)  So, today I drew Temperance Reversed as my card.  Hmmmm......how can that apply to my day?  Well, I am ill today and have no plans on being moderate, which is what a reversed Temperance could be advising.  I intend on doing my regular work, seeing a play and writing late into the night.  Is that wise considering I am sniffling like a broken faucet?  Probably not.  But being moderate is not how I roll. 

This is absolutely foolhardy and I don't even need the cards to tell me.  But I am a stubborn one and will no doubt create new issues due to my insistence on testing the fates.  Later today, when I am whining and my head is throbbing and the breath does not come easily, I will no doubt look back on my card for the day and curse myself for not following the wisdom laid out in front of me.  But tomorrow is another day, I tell myself, and I just may draw the Sun........which would indicate a very happy day.  Unless I am still ill, right?  LOL

Blessings!
Theresa
www.thetarotlady.com

ETA:  So, I am learning hard core here - I did push myself (taught two yoga classes - gentle but still workin' it) and now I am too exhausted to go to the play.  Bummer!  But I will absolutely take heed here and chill the rest of the day. 

ETA at 11:51PM: Husband broke his hand today.  Doing Tai Chi.  Looks like I wasn't the only one with moderation issues. 


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There is some difference of opinion when it comes to reversed tarot cards.  Many modern tarot readers are only reading them right side up and this seems to work just fine for them.  Perhaps when a reader is tuned in to the client, ultimately the position of the cards may not matter.  Or does it?

 

I’ve been reading a long time and consider myself  “old school”. When I started to learn to read cards, I thought it important to include reversals in my readings. I'm very stubborn about this and when I used to teach people to read cards, I really pushed my students to learn to read them all ways (I channel Gordon Ramsey when I teach!!!).  This method is very time consuming and a bit overwhelming for the new reader.

But I've always believed that when a reversed card turns up, it changes the meaning significantly.  For example, the Devil card traditionally means “bondage” but upside down, the meaning changes to “release”.  That’s a pretty big difference.  Also, a majority of reversed cards could be sending a message to slow down and pay attention.  Or it could spell a major delay in the questioner’s situation. So in my not so humble opinion, this enhances the reading.

 

If this is relevant, then why are so many people reluctant to learn the reversed meanings? Is it laziness?  That used to be my thought. But I am beginning to open my mind and realize that people translate things differently and each person must find their own interpretation that works for them.  I don’t want people to become carbon copies of me.  I prefer that everyone develop a style that reflects who they are.  When you are comfortable with yourself and your own method, your readings will flow for you, no matter how the cards land.

Blessings!

Theresa

www.thetarotlady.com

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Are you interested in learning to read tarot cards?  Do you already read cards but would like to improve your skills?  Are you just curious about how it all works?  If so, this blog is created just for you! 

I'm putting my 25+ years of reading tarot cards into creating an interactive forum to help novice as well as seasoned readers.  I'm hoping my essays will give food for thought, answers to inquiries, and support to aid you in your tarot journey.

In addition to this blog, I am creating a podcast (http://thetarotlady.podbean.com/), which will have recordings, videos, presentations and more!  My premium subscription service will give you access to special lessons that will cover the gamut from individual cards, layouts and more!  This service should be available by March - but please check with me before you subscribe to make sure that I have all the bugs worked out!  (I may be able to read tarot well but I am not a total tech geek!)  In the future, I'll be also offering teleclasses - so keep on watching here for all the information as it becomes available. 

I'm looking forward to guiding you in this venture.........
Blessings!
Theresa